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writes:I’ve been with my boyfriend on and off for almost 3years and he’s quite controlling and has double standards. My family don’t get on with him and it’s always causing conflict. We split about a month ago and now he’s just returned from 2 weeks away and we’ve started seeing each other again! I love him to bits and I really want things to work out but he’s such a difficult character i.e. mood swings and stroppiness! My problem is, I’m going to see my cousin in Newcastle for a girly weekend, she and my boyfriend went to school together and now they notoriously don’t get along. When I mentioned it I knew he’d have a hissy fit. But his reaction was worry!! It turns out my cousin is into drug taking, sleeping with her friends boyfriends and has been hit by her current boyfriend. After he’s said all this, I’m now scared of going! I was excited but now I’m worried that if I go up there and she get so ‘out of it’ and I’ll be on my own, 7 hours away from home! I’m not sure what to do! I’ve spent £80 on a ticket up there and I can’t waste that money but I’m scared of one: my boyfriend’s reaction to me going, and two: what could happen! Please Help! I’m due to leave on Friday 9th November.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (6 November 2007):
 Realistically, don't you think if these problems were actually going on, you'd all ready be aware of them. What makes him so aware of this when he's not their family, you are. You said he's controlling. Something about controlling people is they will say or do whatever they can to cause you to go in the direction they want.
I'd talk to your cousin, if able. I'd also ask your boyfriend how he knows all this. He might just be making it up to keep you at home. I'd find out the truth before making accusations.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 November 2007):
 Your boyfriend should have no say about whether you visit a cousin or not. How do you know he's telling you the truth about your cousin anyway, maybe he just trying to manipulate you into staying home. You are old enough to handle finding your way home if she does get "out of it". I'd go just to see if your boyfriend has the story straight. I'll bet you have a great time.
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