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writes:We are invited to a 4th of July party, and I bought a rather modest (in length) strapless summer frock, which shouldn't be a problem except my bf is very particular about what I wear, and I am afraid he will somehow object to this dress!! He also objects to lipstick, and now I mainly wear faint lip gloss/plumper that he likes the scent of.I don't know if I should bring a spare outfit in case he doesn't like my new dress which I love and am excited about!What should I do??? Pleez advise............. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): You go girl!
Proud of ya.
Did your guy enjoy the wet T-shirt contest, or was he elsewhere?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so very much for all your answers! Satin Desire, you are SO perceptive. I do love him, even though you guys are right... Anyway, There was no time to show him the dress beforehand, however, so I just surprised him. Wore heels, too! Thank you all for you extreme encouragement!
He liked the dress, actually, but suggested i wear a sweater because he thought the top too revealing, which I did. Now I feel your disappointment, but at one point the divine (but engaged)party giver said, we should have a wet tee shirt contest(jokingly) when it began pouring rain, so I took off the
sweater and was dancing in the garden!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): He objects to lipstick??? You've got a 'new dress which I love and am excited about!' and you're afraid he'll get angry with you, instead of loving it and being flattered??? Spectacularly brilliant advice from the girls here, I'm especially impressed with bettyblack's 'I say you turn up in the sluttiest tightest dress ever and bright red lipstick!!' and kittykhaos's 'get the number of the man who compliments you on your outfit. Good luck x' And kittenpaws hit the jackpot: 'you can ask him to wear that dress to the party himself.' Have an amazing party! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): As long as it goes both ways- for every dress he asks you Not to wear, you can ask him to wear that dress to the party himself. If he can dress you, you can dress him, right? I'm sure he appreciates equality, right?
Otherwise it just wouldn't be fair.
Mind you, I do like Heretohelpx's quote "Don't change yourself for no one [anyone], unless it's for the better!"
-Is he something of a fashion guru, per chance? The absolute Edge in good taste??
Stay true to yourself.
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reader, kittykhaos  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 is this a relationship or a dictatorship? Please PLEASE wear the dress its YOUR dress and its the 4th of July and my american history is not amazing but im pretty sure thats INDEPENDENCE DAY!! INdependence lol I would never ever go out with someone who told me how to dress, I have some pretty strange ideas on style ( i once had a mowhawk, just went out one day and decided i would i didn't tell anyone) my b/f then of three years just looked at me and went "i like the shaved bits they feel nice" lol
I am guessing your quite an attractive girl and he is probably so insecure he is worried someone will notice. My advice to you is GET OUT!! Put on that dress go to a different 4th of july party and get the number of the man who compliments you on your outfit. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): eyeswideopen-"Sleeping With The Enenmy" is actually on TV 2nite where I live lol...anyway...I think your boyfriend is very controlling...you are your own person DO what YOU want to DO
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): eyeswideopen-"Sleeping With The Enenmy is actually on TV 2nite where I live lol...anyway...I think your boyfriend is very controlling...you are your own person DO what YOU want to DO
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (1 July 2009):
I would not date someone who is so controlling, but I love being rebellious, I would just do it anyway. DO NOT bring another outfit to change into just to please him. You are starting something that will be hard to change with anyone you date, giving in to them, never ever let any man ever tell you what to do, how to look, or even how to dress. I would dump him and find someone who loves you expressing yourself.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (1 July 2009):
 i really dont like controlling men.
this is not a healthy basis of a good relationship.
if you want to stick with ur bf bin your dress.
if you want to wear your dress & have a happy relationship then i advise, bin the bf.
good luck
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 July 2009):
 What should you do? You should go out right this minute and rent the movie "Sleeping with the Enemy". Watch it.
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reader, betty_black +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Oh my dear dear god. What are you doing to yourself?? Why the hell are you alllowing yourself to be controlled like this?? No person should ever dictate to you what you wear. I say you turn up in the sluttiest tightest dress ever and bright red lipstick!! He has no right dictating what you smell like and dress like. Its one thing giving your honest opinion but its another thing telling your partner what she can and cant wear. Get him told straight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): Sounds controlling to me! Next he'll be telling you who you can and can't talk to. Wear the dress AND the lipstick. You should be who you want to be and that includes expressing yourself through what you wear! WEAR it, go out and have a great day, and if he doesn't like it then it's his problem. Don't change yourself for no one, unless it's for the better!
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