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writes:I'm scared that i may not be good enough in bed so i refuse to have a gf, is this a stupid excuse, but i feel that if i have sex with a girl hu has had a bf before i may not be able to pleasure her and she will tell everyone. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): I'd just turned 15 when I lost my virginity & both of us where virgins. Well we just did what felt good & talked about what we wanted to try and it went from there.
Don't stress about it, everytime you have sex you'll learn more about what your partner enjoys. It's been almost 2 and a half years and sex is still getting better and better.
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reader, duce00  +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Totally understandable for an in-experienced guy your age. I was there once too, so I can totally relate. I will say that its better to wait untill sex actuly means somthing more than the mechanical act of "doing it". I didnt have sex till I was 18 and I wish Id waited even longer. There was a fair amount of fumbling around for a few years untill I had a good girlfriend. Thankfully I learned alot since then but it takes time. You simply arnt gonna be Casanova over night. Relax about that one and just accept that you will have to learn just like the rest of us did. If you are smart you will make sure you wait untill you find a good hearted girl to be with. Monogamy is the key to having better sex in my opinion.
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reader, penta +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Some girls find a guy's virginity sexy; and when she knows you're a virgin, she's not going to expect you to be a great lover.
You're in this to learn it -- NO ONE is born knowing how. Be willing to take direction (up, over to the left, THERE!) and be willing to laugh at your own mistakes. If she says ow stop.
The best relationships are one where there's laughter in the bedroom. It's all supposed to be fun. Don't put such pressure on yourself. Relax, and probably the girl of your dreams will truly enjoy "breaking you in."
And don't hold it against her that she's had other relationships. That's not cool. She's not going to compare techniques, unless it was really great then she's going to want to TEACH it to you. YOU'RE the guy she's with. NOT the other guy she got rid of for whatever reason. Have confidence in that and enjoy the ride, so to speak.
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reader, sammi1987 +, writes (27 August 2007):
when i lost my virginity it was to someone i knew well so i told him it was my first time and i also ask him what to do as i had no idea and i was scared of doing something wrong, so we talk through it whilst we were having sex. i no that probably sounds stupid and scary but honestly talking whilst having sex and asking your partner how it feels is good for you and also makes it nice for them as it shows you want to please them aswell. just relax about it and youll be fine!
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