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writes: Okay im turning 16 june 26th and i really need help with a problem i have...My aunt was messin around with her friends husband(a 36 year old man)...so i hear about this guy for awhile then i meet him...well on my aunts birthday he calls and ask me to swear to him not to say nothing...at the time i had just got back with my ex boyfriend and was really happy...but i was like yes i can what??and i thought he was going to tell me him and my aunt had sex which i already knew from her...but he didn't say that instead he told me he liked me,well he has 9 kids,his 18 year old son liked me but...the more i hung out with him and his son the closer i got to both,well he seen how much his son liked me so he wont let his son and me talk no more,but after Jamal had told me he liked me he started talking to my aunts friend Melanie while also trying to talk to me,he told me he was just using Melanie for a place to stay for awhile,then i started to like him bac,well Melanie has HPV and i guess Jamal has already slept with her....but he swaers he didnt..until,the night before last he woke me up and he f***ed me...when he was done i asked if he pulled out and he said no,now im scared i have hpv,i could be pregnat,and if i am my aunt will find out...what should i do about this????and now he alos tore me and my boyfriend up big time...
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reader, jaxwardle86  +, writes (11 June 2006):
 This has also made me feel sick not about you but this bloke you obviously didn't really consent to the sex as far as i'm seeing. This bloke has a serious problem you are obviously not the only person he has done this with ditch him tell your aunt and for god sake get the police involved as he WILL do this again. And it needs to be stopped espiecally if he is passing on viruses. You will lose your friendship with the boy because of this but whats worse??Please please please stop this from happening to another girl.Go to the doctors and they will guide you through all the necesarry tests i hope things work out ok tc xxx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (31 May 2006):
 Your post has made me feel a bit sick really. This is a 36 year old man having sex with you at 15 - I am sure you know that is illegal, and I know you think this is a 'cool' older man but he is just a creep. He used your body for sex, and he didn't even use a condom or worry about the consequences. Technically, if he gave you a disease it is regarded as an assault charge under the law.
I don't mean to be patronising but he is just using you for sex while cheating on your aunt. You are just his 'extras'. Of course you can get pregnant (a man loses sperm well before they actually ejaculate even if he pulled out) and you should be taking the emergency pill which you can get from a doctor, or some chemists (take it within 72 hours, or go to a family planning clinic if it is too late to get the coil fitted up to 5 days after sex). If the man has 9 kids already, there is no questions about his fertility! As for HPV, well it is not like HIV which is contracted through intercourse/ bodily fluids. HPV is a virus that is passed by skin to skin contact and as I am sure you know from your aunt, it comes with an increased risk of certain types of cancer like cervical or rectal. Once you have it there is no cure but you have to maintain regular screening for cervical abnormalities through local smear programmes, and you can have a blood test to check which variant of the virus you have. This man maybe sleeping with lots of women/men/anything with a pulse...you need to tell your aunt as you could be saving her life. If he isn't using condoms with you, then the same will be true of his other conquests. Your aunt may get something far worse than HPV and lets face it blood is much thicker than water - your loyalty should be with her, and while she maybe angry she has to know about what she is living with. This man is just saying he is using her to manipulate you into having sex with him. The reality is that he is getting sex behind her back and he is not much of a man if he finds a 15 year old girl attractive. I am sure you are lovely but when you are 30-something then you will look back and understand how wrong this all is.
Get walking down that family planning clinic ASAP to stop this man ruining your life. I could tell you what I would like to do with a pair of garden shears and this creep, but it wouldn't be very professional!
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