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writes:Hi everyone,I've been scratching my head and pacing back and forth over this situation all day as I've never really had this problem before (and ive had a few dramas in my life).I've been with my bf for over 10 months now and we have recently been fighting as he has a gambling problem and he wont seek help for it (pokies about a grand a fortnight sometimes). His siter is 18 and she has a friend we shall call her Sally. One night i was at home and my bf and i were talking on MSN and he added Sally to his account just for a chat (which is fine) anyways he started to ignore me and as a joke we go into the others account just to rev them up a bit and thats what i did to him. Only to be sent this message from sally as soon as i get into his account "well to be honest i think your hot and you can do better then your gf" holey crap! So much for me thinking this girl was nice and i brought it up with him and he said not to worry about it that he loves me bla bla bla. So i let it go.We decided to give each other a bit of time apart the past week or 2 so he can think about counselling and such. I wake up this morning to find a missed call from his sister and a really abusive message telling me to take all this crap i wrote about Sally off my Myspace, i had to actually sit there for a little bit and try to think who Sally was then i realised. And just to double check i looked all through my page and i hadnt said one think about this girl or about what had happened on msn. I checked my trackor and it showed me i had multiple visits from Sally to my myspace since the 16th of this month (a week after the msn incident)I was completly shocked! bewildered even.I messaged my bf and he said he will sort out his sister and i said okay ill sort out Sally and sent her a message on msn. she never replied. i wasnt rude to her or anything i just more or less told her to wake up to herself and stop spreading lies.Now his sister hates me, he lives at home and i wont be able to set foot into that house without seeing sally or his sister and some big feud starting over nothing! I told him that this is most probably the beginning of the end and he told me he doesnt want it to be. But how am i to srot this bitch Sally out? She is obviously trying to cut my ties with his family (who love me to death and i love them) so she can worm her way in to get my bf!So im also scared she will succeed in this petty cunning attempt. i hate 18 yr olds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSounds like a plan to just go around there and not worry about either of those girls. Such a stressful situation argh!!! I keep hoping it will sort itself out, I havent bothered to check my myspace trackor to see if she is still obsessing over me today. His sister and i got on really well before this friend entered her life. a very jealous girl i think. Im still worried. Wouldnt mind some more opinions though
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reader, fwddgs  +, writes (19 March 2009):
Hmm... Well, this is... surprising from an 18 year old! I think you need to chat to his sister and see what's going on. It's clear that her friend wants to go out with your boyfriend and that she's doing as much as she can to help her, but if both you and your boyfriend are there and talk to her you can cut out the only thing keeping this sally in the game. Without the sister she'll lose the confidence to keep trying and stop. It's not going to be easy, but it will be worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): well then good thing im not 18 lol im 20 and u shouldnt let ur b/f go it doesnt seem at least that theres any other problems besides"sally" u letting her and his sister kno they get to u by not going over to his house just because they dont like u doesnt mean they have any right to be rude to u in their house ur not ther for his sister or "sally" ur ther because of ur b/f and if his parents like u and u two are dateing i dowbt hes gonna let her be rude to u. i am currently getting over this with my b/f and his sister well she had a friend who he acually dated and i lived with his sister we got into it because i moved out and in with my boyfriend (her brother) well ever time i was at his dads they were their and they did say horrible things about me they called me a bitch and said they were gonna beat my ass blah blah blah so when it heated up i told him to take care of it and i left and after that she still gave me these dirty ass looks but i still kept coming around and eventually she aproached me and said she didnt want to fight anymore and that the whole thing was stupid witch it was very stupid concidering his sister is 30 and i was 19 at the time but anyways u need to be the bigger person that u r and just go about ur day w/ ur boyfriend and not let it get to u their being imature and Sally is being a little slut who knows he has a g/f and needs to grow up and back off. good luck to u and i hope these bitches ease off and find something better to do then start petty shit.
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