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writes: I am 17, am dating a girl, I haven’t yet had sex, but the time is getting closer where it will happen, and I want it to, but I am very self conscious about the size of my manhood. I hear of the average size being 6.5 inches, but after measuring mine it only measures to about 5.25 inches, and it is really starting to get me down, as I thought previously it would get bigger with age, but now I'm 17, and not much has changed, and it is really starting to make me depressed because I feel embarrassed to go all the way with my partner because of this, and she thinks that am going off her. What can I do? Will it get bigger or am I stuck with this size? Is there any way of making it bigger, say through medication? Many thanks
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 As a girl, I have had sex with guy with a very large penis that was terrible, due to lack of connection (and considerable lack of skill) as well as sex with a guy with a penis a full 2 and a half inches shorter that was so much better due to skill and connection. So, size doesn't mean caca without know-how.
In addition, 5 ish inches is plenty fine. The best sex I've had was with smaller.
If you and this girl are close and have a real connection, relax, give yourself a break your first couple of tries, and just practice and enjoy yourself. You will be fine
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reader, emmit_fitzhume +, writes (27 May 2009):
Hey, guy. Guess what? Your concern is common. VERY common. How do I know? Not only have I been there, but I have talked to many men who have had doubts about their ability to please a woman because of size. And I can tell you as a 35-year-old man that the news is good.
As other comments here reveal, there is infinitely more to a woman's sexual satisfaction than the size of our junk. Does size matter? It’s not a simple yes or no answer. It’s more like yes AND no. Most women prefer larger ones, which can reach places and apply more pressure than lesser ones. So on a purely physical basis, size matters.
But we have evolved past animal lust alone. Women are now labyrinths of thoughts, moods and desires. Sex is more than a physical act for most of them – it is an EXPERIENCE. One more reliant on human connection than body part compatibility. So…in a different but very real way, size doesn’t matter.
Size-wise, you're one hundred percent good to go, bro. But reading these few paragraphs is unlikely to change the very deep-seated belief in the importance of size. If you're still shaky about it, I've written a book called The MANual by The Unhung Hero: Everything I wish I knew when I was 18 about Women and my Johnson.
Get it. And get your BRAIN well-hung.
Good luck...
Emmit
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): I'm 25 my girlfriend is 21 and she is the most awesome girl ever and I'm like 6 inches so I'm like not the most awesome and she is happy with me because I think she hit her head and had serious brain trauma because shes way out of my league.
Her ex boyfriend was a freaking horse with a penis that could satisfy a whale and a body carved out of stone, but who has the girl? Thats right whale boy its me! So go fuck yourself with your mutated dick you freak!
OK now onto your problem. As I have said I am not well endowed when other losers that have no girlfriends are. You have a girlfriend and I'm asking myself what are you waiting for she isn't going to have sex with herself... Well I guess she could technically, but I bet she is thinking of you when she does.
So don't think about it because I can guarantee she will notice that your worried. So just have sex with her she won't have a problem with it I can guarantee it because I was in your position at 17 too.
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reader, DMO +, writes (30 September 2008):
Your 17, honestly you should wait for this reason. If she is younger than you, you can be consider as a sex offender. Why you ask, all a parent has to do is report you buddy. You would be consider a juvenille sex offender and forced to register for at least 10 years or more. If she is 18 or more, she can get screwed. Just a suggestion. Marry your hand, it will never let you down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): I agree with Bev. I am only roughly 6inches, and i really dont worry too much about the size, and i say this because of a button that i read at spencers.
"Its not the length, its not the size, its how many times, you can make it rise"
haha, i love that button.
Anyways, thickness outbeats length anyday. If you want to satisfy her to her fullest, try either you or your girlfriend rotating their hips as stated above, it causes pressure in the lower areas of both of you, causing a great sensation that you will both enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): Yes, and I would also like to add that my schlong isn't really that big either. It's almost 6 inches when rock hard. Seems like my intimate partners have had quite a bit of enjoyment from it and the way it rocks. So, like the others have mentioned, practice practice practice... 8]
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (24 December 2006):
 Sorry to be negative but size DOES matter. But also what you do with it. To the feamle anon, do not presume to answer for all 'females' about what or how we feel, and if you do, quit hiding behind an anon stance.
You GF is not going to notice a half inch difference. Anyway, it is an AVERAFE!! That means that lotas of penises of varying lengths have been measured (?) divided by the number measured (!) and an AVERAGE length devised. Get that!!??
AN AVERAGE LENGTH!!!
So please stop worrying and go enjoy the naughties.
Remember that practice makes perfect!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): [laughs] I'm just curious Ms. Anon below, what if your bf has a 2 inch penis? I mean, I've seen those around and yeah...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): Dude, speaking as a girl myself, we don't care. Just remember: It's not the size, it's what you do with it.
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reader, Matt,20 +, writes (7 July 2005):
Brother as A guy my self, being 20, I always freak out about that, but hey! it turn out to be completely the oposite, my girlfriend is 17 and my past sexual experiences were abosolutely GREAT! , I had the same thought as you, what I recommend you to do is, Just have the sex, forget and don't , I reapeat DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT YOUR SIZE when you about to have sex, Once you have done it, then ask your self the same question, and will see a complete different answer... trust me, I went through it... It's so coool just relax brother!Matt,20.
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reader, schlottjl +, writes (2 July 2005):
 You are incorrect on the average length. You are slightly larger than average. Average is 4.5inches.
As a woman, I promise you that even if you are 3 inches we do not laugh. That is what guys do. WOmen need to rememger that guys don't think like the ladies and lucky for men the ladies don't think like them.
That is why good communication is important. I would be more afraid of her faking her pleasure. Why would women fake it? They WANT you to think you are the stud. We love to see you so excited you might go quick. Makes us feel beautiful.
If you were smaller than average, then you won't want to treat her badly. Women only remember your size if you screw them over. Then the whole world might as well be smaller than average since every female she knows will be told so.
With the rest of the advice, I agree. Particularly, that size is not the most important thing but that if I had to chose I want girth. Lacking both? Then ensure positions are maximizing the feel for her.
The best being the flat doggy. She on her stomach and legs together. Or her on top but facing the other direction, while you stimulate with your hand. (That can be a medium to advanced move.) Or try missionary and scoot up a bit so her clitoris area is stimulated a bit more.
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reader, pops +, writes (2 July 2005):
Some additional information to an under educated young man. Women's vagina's only have nerve endings at the opening and at the cervix, which is way back in the vagina, most of the time. Unless she is on top when having intercourse, most men, even guys with longer than average penises can't reach the cervix. So, the only part of the vagina you have to reach is the entrance, because that is the only place she is going to feel your penis. LENGTH DOES NOT MATTER. Its how you use it. As for Bev's preference for a fatter penis, you can make up for that shortcoming, if its a problem, but rotating your hips in a circle, or back and forth, as you enter and back out of the vagina, giving your gf the sensation that she is handling a telephone pole. You can also do the corkscrew, where you rotate your hips and you penis drives in and out of the vagina, imitating the motion of a cork screw. The first technique works best with about half your penis in the vagina while you rotate your hips around and around. Finally, because the inner labia and the PC muscles have the nerve cells to feel you, you can thrill a woman but inserting your penis just enough that the head or crown is lodged, and then take it back out and repeat. Its the expansion and contraction o the PC muscles and labia that will be very stimulating to your girlfriend, which is caused by the introduction and withdrawal of the head of your penis. Trust me when I tell you that you can drive women nuts with his manuever. pops
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reader, becky05 +, writes (2 July 2005):
Bev's right, Size doesnt matter!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (2 July 2005):
 I've got good news for you... and good news.
The first good news is that your girlfriend isn't going to laugh at the size of your penis. She's not going to pull out a ruler and say "Oh, no! You don't think I'm going to have sex with *that*, do you?" She's not going to stifle a giggle and make a lame joke about it "looking like a penis... only smaller". She's not going to grizzle that she was "shortchanged".
Your gf - when the time comes that she feels ready to have sex with you - is not going to care whether your willie is 6.25 inches, or 5.25... or 6.75. Speaking as a woman who's seen (and had sex with) a fair few willies in my time, we just don't care about how long it is! We really don't.
"Average size" means only that, for a given population, about half are bigger and about half are smaller. That means that, at this point in your life, you're in the company of 50% of the male population.
If you backed me into a corner and held a gun to my head I might confess that a fat penis feels a bit nicer than a thin one, but length? No. IT DOESN'T MATTER. So stop worrying. It's how well you use it and how considerate you are with your girl that matters. When you have sex together, I can promise that there will be no discussion about the dimensions of your dick.
The second bit of good news for you is that your "manhood" may still continue to grow a bit over the next couple of years. At 17 you're still quite a young man, so don't give up on things just yet. As I've already said, it won't really matter all that much to your girlfriend, but if a slightly bigger nob will make you feel more confident about yourself sexually, then I'm all for that.
Now, just promise that 1)you won't rush your first sex together and that you'll be sure to do your utmost to make sure your girlfriend enjoys it, and 2) you will always, ALWAYS use condoms, then gGo have some fun, and remember that women really don't care about the penis size. Only men worry about that.
(Just as a matter of trivia, did you know that lowland gorillas' penises are between two and three inches long? You think a silverback gorilla ever worries that his penis mightn't measure up?)
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