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writes: HiI'm 13 and I'm in love with this guy in Year 10. My mates keep saying that they can tell he feels the same way about me. But, I want to believe them and ask him out. The thing is, if he doesn't feel the same way about me, I would feel stupid and look desperate. My best mate says that he won't ask me out, because of the age gap and what his friends would say. I know that I love him. But should I just go and ask him?Thanks (p.s please reply asap) Reply to this Question
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reader, pops +, writes (2 July 2005):
At age 13, you have no business dating anyone 23 years of age, and more importantly, if he has any kind of sexual relationship with you, he is a pedophile, and a criminal! I Don't know what agenda your so-called friends have for you, but don't listen to them. Stick with kids your own age. Of course you are attracted to older men. That is natural. At your age, you are interested in older men for a lot reasons, not the least is to try to identify someone who would make a good mate for you in the future. I would hope that if he is good enough to be worthy of your attention, that he will calmy thank you for asking him out, and then say, " No. I am too old for you at this time." What is a 13 year old girl going to talk about with a 23 year old guy? What is he going to talk to you about? You move in different circles, and have experienced very different events, and activities. His mental interests are bound to be more mature than yours are, simply because of his additional education and experiences in life. When you are 25, and he is 35, the age gap will make much less difference. and when you are 30, and he is 40, it won't matter at all. Give yourself time to grow up, before chasing older men. Practice on the guys your own age. pops
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reader, becky05 +, writes (2 July 2005):
You have two choices, one is to continue to admire him from afar until you lose interest or you can bite the bullet and ask him out, the worst he can say is no!
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