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male
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writes:There's a weird pattern that's been happening over the last couple years involving my lovelife... First of, it's practically been non-existant. However, I'm called the smartest of all my friends understand emotions, how relationships work, always have the right thing to say, always there to help people selfless, always smiling, the whole lot. Yet, I haven't had a single girlfriend =S...In the last two-three years, I realized a weird pattern emerging...1) I'd meet a reeeeally nice girl, really pretty too, and we'd become super good friends. We'd get really close, laugh, tell stories, become super friends on the verge of something more.2) I'd realize I'd develop feelings for this person and would decide to ask them out.3) Someone else would ask them out mere hours (Yes, hours) before I could, and then they'd start to date (to which they all still are to this day).4) I'd continue to maintain a super friendship with this girl (and their boyfriends would say I'm a super guy for being such a gentleman), and they would ask me to become the godfather of their upcoming children...Yes, this has happened 4-5 times... As much as I value each and every friendship, each one took along time to develop, and I'm tired... just... really tired of waiting... I've really had enough... What on Earth do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 first of all u need to realize its the GUY who makes the first move,so u have no right to complain. if u were a girl,and u were waiting for a guy to ask her out then i could understand.
basically u answered ur own question. Ur TOO friendly. Girls are probably afraid ur THIS NICE to EVERY GIRL and you will be difficult to deal with. too much competition.
so let me ask you this. do you have the confidence to ask a girl out? Are u afraid of rejection?
Since girls like you and you make them laugh whats stopping you before u ask them out? Do u wanna become 100% best friends before u do? TOO LATE my friend. The girl will only see u as a best friend. Around the 30% of the friendship she will start wondering "why doesnt he ask me out?"
So go ahead. Ask a girl out. When u start becoming friends with a girl....take a moment. look at her in the eyes and say "you know ive really been enjoying your company....I would like to take you out sometime"
EASY.
Now stop whining and get to work :)
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reader, meestal  +, writes (12 December 2010):
Just a suggestion, but maybe you can try another approach? Einstein (no shit-for-brains, I've been told) put it this way: trying the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity.
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