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male
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26-29,
anonymous
writes: I have had this friend since I was a toddler. I really care about her but something has happened. You see, she did something with this other guy which quite frankly I am shocked about. I can't believe she would do such a thing. And just to top it off this guy is my friend. I really really care about her and I'm worried that this is just the start. I'm scared that gradually we'll grow apart and we'll no longer be the best friends that we once were. Please can you help me? What should I say to her?
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reader, kaylee.  +, writes (29 November 2010):
well, talk to her. bring it up calmly, tell her what you feel about it but don't be harsh. and if she likes this guy then i guess it was her decision, if you're her bestfriend i'm sure she'll understand you. even if she gets a little hot headed i'm sure she'll calm down, as long as she knows you don't completely agree with it maybe she'll talk to you.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 It depends on what she did and why. Still, if you are truly worried about drifting apart, you could always talk to her about it. If you two really are/were as close as you say then, she will understand where your worries stem from. You are a friend and I am sure she will at least consider your words. Sit her down and talk to her, tell her that you are worried and that you feel as though this whole ordeal threatens to shatter whatever friendship you had before.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): What exactly did she do? You're only 13-15, so what u think is shocking now in a few years time you'll take it without a blink.
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reader, Bella555 +, writes (29 November 2010):
Hi,
It's obvious you're a caring, empathetic person, and your friends mean a great deal to you. However, it is difficult to address your concerns without knowing what has happened between those friends that has you so alarmed. Please offer more details (without disclosing personal information, of course), and hopefully I or someone else here can lend you a hand in resolving your dilemma.
For now, say nothing. Sometimes a little time and distance when dealing with a controversial situation can help you gain perspective and if action is needed, you'll take the wisest course.
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