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writes:please dont judge me! ive done nothing but cry the last 2 days i feel so awful and very confused!my fella of a yr works away alot he just gone away in december to the new york he comes back in may in so excited to see him but so confused! ive just moved to his home town given up alot to be with him when he comes back and the other night i met this guy whom i have not seen in months, ive always had a little crush on him and one thing led to another and we kissed! he later came back to my house with a few friends and we both fell asleep on the sofa. its was so nice to have a guy to snuggle with! now im confused about what to do i love my fella and i really like this guy?i have told my fella this guy stayed in the flat on the sofa but i didnt say i was there or that we kissed!im so confused?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): hay guys thanks for ur advice, i told my fella the truth and he was upset at first but he totaly understood ive now seen the othe guy since and said it shouldnt of happened! and he said it shouldnt of either! so were all ok now tar!xx
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reader, eddie  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 You allowed yourself to fall into this trap because you were enjoying the attention. You might not have been thinking about kissing either. You were way over the line though. We don't do sleepovers when we're involved with someone else.
I can understand someone "wanting" sex but not actually doing it. Cuddling though is mental and should be something that only satisfiys you when it's coming form a lover. Example, my wife scratches my head while we're watching TV. It feels great but also because it's from her, the woman I love and have a bond with. It would be TOTALLY different if it was a strange women.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (26 March 2007):
 I think for one kiss you don't beat yourself up. Yes it was wrong but you know that. Do you want to get with this guy again? Do you want more to happen? If yes then maybe you don't love your guy as much as you say you do but I reckon that the kiss was more a result of your feeling lonely in a new town than an actual physical attraction to this guy. I would forgive yourself. If you want more to happen think carefully about if your relationship with this other guy is working but if you're truly sorry just write it off as a bad mistake and move on.
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reader, Dos_Vinci  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 Maybe you don't "Love your fella". A lot of people feel they're obligated to love someone because they love them. If you loved your man you wouldn't of cuddled with this guy. But that's my opinion and mine doesn't count. You should tell your man. Let him decide what's going to happen. Maybe he'll forgive you, maybe he won't. No matter what. You must tell him.
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