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writes:Well, I like this guy and he likes me back. I'm 15 and he is 16. We told each other that we like each other 1 month back.We are not going out just yet, we're on the verge of going out.We are getting to know each other more in that way.I met him in January, so we are really good friends as well.He's liked me since beginning April - which is about 4 months, and i've only liked him since beginning of May - which is only about 2 months.He told me that he wanted to take things slow, because he isn't ready to be in a relationship right now, as he got out of one in February.I dont want to rush things either, as this is going to be my first relationship, first kiss, first everything. So we aren't going out yet, we haven't kissed or anything yet, only hugs and a bit of flirting.However, I sometimes feel as though my feelings for him are not real, sometimes I feel as though I dont like him, I really really really thought I did, but I haven't seen him for 3 weeks and it's not bothering me at all, he lost his phone 2 weeks ago, so we cant talk or text as much and he's only come on MSN once and we hardly talk, but we still like each other. Atleast I THINK I like him, i'm really confused, because I dont know if my feelings for him are true, and I would really like to know before we start going out, I really dont want to hurt him, but if I dont truly like him, then Im going to have to tell him.Any ideas how I can find out if I truly have feelings for him? and If I dont, how do I tell him?Thank You x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey,
This is to elizabeth1986. Yes I have gradually seen some things in him that I don't like.
Maybe that might be the reason,
but i'm gonna have to see if i truly like him.
Thanks for the help.
Both of you.
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reader, elizabeth1986 +, writes (27 June 2008):
Hi hun,
Well, everybody is different, but I know when I am interested in somebody, especially at first, I cant stop thinking about them, I go out of my way to speak to them and am devastated if I cant speak to them. I only start to wonder if I really really like them or not, when I get to know them a little better and you start to see their bad sides, like moods or their views for example. Have you started seeing particular things that you dont like about him??
I think you'd know if you really really liked this person and before you consider taking things with him a step further you need to know for definate that you like him. Only you can decide your true feelings for him, but maybe you should try chatting to a few more guys and maybe going on a few dates, having a few evenings out to see if you meet anybody that you prefer or if other guys dont compare to him? You need to look around to find out what you like in a partner and what you dont like. Im not saying to kiss or anything else with other boys, just chat to them and see what else is out there. Your first times are very special and dont do anything until your 100% sure on the person your with. And remember that the legal age is 16 for any hanky panky and wait until then for certain!!!! :-)
I hope this helps you out,
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): hey! listen
you are 15, go out andhave fun, honestly, i wish i had, im a bit older than you, i got involved with someone at the age of 16, and weve been together since- i dont have any plans to break up- although, looking back- i would have done things so much differenly. go out and have fun, you are to young to be getting into deep relationships! yeah its fine to go out with him if you both want to, but my advise would be- if he wants to go out with you, he will come to you! go out and have fun, you are young, you should be living your life! dont let a boy or feelings for a boy run around your brain at your age!!
go out, enjoy yourself- you will then learn about life and love!
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