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writes:The girl that my ex dumped me for has put pics of him and her on her facebook page and I found them this morning. I feel so bitter I keep going to write her a nasty message but then stop half way through cos I know it will make me look bad. But It would also make me feel a lot better telling her exactly what I think of her. I'm also very embarrassed as everyone knows I got dumped for her and I get a few messages from people asking if I'm ok. I'm not, obviously, but don't want to show how hurt I am. I'm beginning to hate her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): There relationship is based on your down fall. The more that you show them that you miss him or hate her the more amunition you give them both. Sending the message to her shows her that you are jealous of her and makes her feel better about herself. It also shows him that you still have an emotional connection with him.
Dont do anything that will strengthen their relationship at your own expense, they can do that themselves. Dont give them anything to talk about unless it is positive. It better for their conversations to be about how well you looked. or people should be asking him whether he has heard from you heard from you (er ....no!) or 'I saw your ex she looked really well' RATHER THAN ' Your ex is so jealous ....Did you see the comment she made on facebook?' and it is good for him to wonder whether you still care for him rather than knowing that you still do!
maybe you delete them from your facebook. Im sure you dont still class him as a friend.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (30 October 2008):
 I don't think there's any need for you to write her a letter. She is his girlfriend now, and she can put up pictures of them if she likes. Yes, it's completely tacky, but not something that you should attack her for.
You need to work on getting over your ex so that these things won't affect you so deeply. It seems like this wound is still pretty fresh. Call up your girlfriends and go out today and get your mind off of things. Tell your girls that you just want to have fun and not even THINK about that ex of yours. The more you get out there, the less those pictures will bug you.
You don't need that guy or this stress on your life because of him. You're way too awesome for that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2008): If you put oput a message people will start to think they know why he did not want to be with you. Really you would not feel better in the end. If you are looking for a bit of pride you could say you realise he was right and thatyou were not very happy together. I know it would be a lie, but you can punch a pillow with his face on to get the rage out. Your self pride is what you need right now.
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