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36-40,
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writes:I was finally able to end very emotionally abusive relationship. I'm not saying it wasn't any of my fault--I still blame myself for being an enabler and not setting any boundaries with him.He stalked me for a while afterwards and while I think he's stopped (for now), I still find myself feeling really numb. I don't know if I feel unsafe, but I just have this unsettling feeling. I'm in therapy and that helps, but I still find myself going through the motions of my life while feeling really unsatisfied with everything.I don't know if I trust anymore, I don't like myself anymore, nothing gives me excitement anymore, and I find myself becoming increasingly lonely... I'm really afraid that I will go back to him, which is the last thing I want. I guess I don't even have a question, but any suggestions as to what to do would be great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): My, my, my,
You are in a really bad situation. I think time will help stop some of this. You really need to make an extra effort to spend more time with your true friends, family and force yourself to get out more often. I realize that is easier said then done. That will help safeguard you from taking him back. Good luck!
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reader, greenplanner +, writes (23 October 2010):
It sounds like you are depressed. Is your therapy addressing that?
Your self-esteem probably took a major blow while you were in this relationship. Try to work on building it back up. Can you do some volunteer work? That can help get your mind off your own problems at the same time that it gives you self-esteem by helping someone who needs it. Battered women's shelters always need volunteers, or you could put in some hours at a charity thrift store, or you could visit elderly people in a home or hospice. Stay busy, do things that make you feel positive and good, and try to create new friendships with people.
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