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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm ready to throw in the towel. Should I leave?Our house is in foreclosure for the 2nd time. Our Gas (hot water) was disconnected for the 3rd time. Not to mention the other times that our water, trash, electric, phone and cable services have been disconnected. Here's the deal. I barely made it out of High School. I have worked my whole life. I am responsible. I am now in nursing school, I own a small business, I am also a Real Estate Broker. My husband is a college graduate ONLY BECAUSE HE WAS ON SCHOLARSHIP FOR BASKETBALL. Had there been no basketball there would be no degree. He is NOT motivated. He would be happy with a TV, frig, and toilet. He gets jobs that are BARELY helpful. He has cheated on me approx 8 times that I know of. The last time he cheated on me he slept with an asst. manager at his store (he was the manager) and he got caught. Got fired from his job and left us (our 4 children) with no income or insurance. Hence the house going into foreclosure the 1st time. I have been left responsible for EVERYTHING. Rcently, we sat down and talked about the whole "BILL THING" and we split the bills up so we would each be paying fairly. Well, our gas was disconnected for non-payment ($641) this was his bill to pay. Im just so frustrated. And most of all Im exhausted. I work, go to school, maintain my home and take care of 4 children. I have talked, whined, pleaded, begged.....written and asked for changed over the past 10 years and recieved NOTHING. Oh, and he has broken 4 lawn Mowers in the past 3 years......I think its a ploy to not have to mow the lawn......I told you no motivation!Im confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): You need to leave! Before even looking at your other issues with him, cheating is a huge deal breaker, imo. After you get divorced, prison should be a pretty good motivator for paying child support.
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reader, LisaSE  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 OMG! I would SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO be out of there! My dear woman, you are a hard-working, self-motivation confident and SMART woman. Emphasise on SMART! Get smart! Take what you can and sell it! The rest, you move out and, if you can swing it, take it to small claims court! If you want out, then honey, GET OUT! Leave him with it! Especially if there is stuff in HIS name!!! You take care of the things under your name so your credit stays good and tough noogies for him!
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reader, Chippy2 +, writes (13 August 2010):
Get the hell out of there with your kids! This man has no respect or love for you or them!
You will probably get more for a short time on social services to get things evened out!
Please get some help at your local women's shelter. They have people there that can help you get resources and also a place to stay.
Don't deny that this 'husband' of yours is abusive! He is mentally abusing you and you NEED to stay healthy and strong for those kids! If something were to happen to you what kind of life will they have?
Run, don't walk for help - please!
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