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writes:Im 14I went to a party had some drinks Hung out with a guy friend and he offered to walk me home.I remember walking out on the his lawn, Then Waking up in my house ....... I Am Pregnant I havent told anyone The guy lives out of the country and Iam scared to tell my mom ........ How do I Tell Her ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, dcpompey  +, writes (27 August 2010):
Well you are pregnant so there is no getting away from that so your mum will find out even if you do not tell her so sit her down and go ahead and tell her she might mad, cross or upset but as she is your mum she should help you and stuff if you don't tell her it will be much worse when she sees you are pregnant in a few months when your tummy gets bigger. good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): Sit down and tell her what happened and that your pregnant. But it could be much worse. You could have gotten an STD that could shorten your life. Its not as bad as you think. You are very young but you can do it.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (26 August 2010):
 You'll just have to sit her down and tell her that you have something really important to tell her and that you don't want her to get mad or upset. You are going to have to tell her soon as it won't be long until you start to show...
Plan what you want to do about the baby before you talk to her unless you think it'll be easier for you to make a decision together with her.
Personally, I wouldn't advise an abortion at your age. You're still very young and if you had an abortion you'll think about it for the rest of your life, possibly even regret it afterwards.
Adoption is certainly an option if you're not sure if you could raise a baby. If you was to choose this path you could look into open adoptions as this way you'll still be able to keep in contact with the baby.
Or of course you can keep it. You'll have to figure out a way with your mum how you could continue school. Raising a child is hard, especially at your age but a lot of girls at the same age as you have gone through this and done a good job at raising their baby. Find out if there is a young parent support group in your area. You could also look it up on the internet, I think you'll find there are a lot of articles by girls your age that have been through the same thing.
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reader, Doll_facesweetie +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Oh sweetie that's horrible! If you have a school counsler talk to them first if you can. Or a close relitive who knowsvyour mother that can help you desire how to tell her. Good luck sweet heart
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (26 August 2010):
 First off, are you absolutely sure that you're pregnant? If you are, you need to sit your mother down and tell her. She'll know, as a mother, what's best for you right now. It doesn't matter whether or you and the father like each other, now is NOT a good time to have a child for you, you are just not ready for it, mentally, physically, you're still going through puberty! I don't know what your views on abortion are but I think it'd be best for everyone if you did get one. I'm sorry this happened to you but now you can learn from your mistakes. You needn't be afraid of telling your mother because she's there to take care of you and you need that now more than ever.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Distant Melody +, writes (26 August 2010):
First off, figure out your plans. Do you want to keep the baby? Abortion, or give the baby to a young couple who cant conceive?
Some parents go crazy, would she kick you out of the house? What would you do then?
Do you care about the father/want to tell him he has a son? IF you choose to keep the baby. A lot of guys care.
Telling your mom; Sit her down when you are alone. & tell her what you did. How you made a mistake by getting drunk & taken advantage of.
You're fourteen. Being pregnant isn't a game.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (26 August 2010):
of course you tell your mom, you are going to start showing soon! and she will find out. you are a kid having a kid it is one of the biggest responsibility ever. and you need to stop drinking and having sex you are just a child! you need to tell your mom.
Good Luck!
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