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writes:My fiance cheated on me and got the girl pregnant. I love him a lot.and to make it worse i was already a month pregnant. he swears it wasnt on purpose, he was drunk and that he will do everything to get me back.i dont know if i can trust him again or how it will be being with him. it will change alot and im scared i dont know what to do HELP!
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reader, mzcorona805 +, writes (17 April 2010):
Wow. I know the feeling. My baby was born december 22nd, 2009 and my ex cheated on me with his ex. They were seperated for ten years. Now she is pregnant too. I moved out of his house and I;m a single mom again. Oh well. I moved on because the only way men will learn is if they lose what they have. I tried after i found out which he told me one week after I delivered the baby to make things work. But why he did what he did, which now created 3 children his son with her his new son with her and my daughter to grow up in broken homes. He made me go have an abortion (this was before he cheated) I was already 22 weeks pregnant when I found out and he was so angry. Then he got someone else pregnant. He does not deserve me. I've been through several weeks of therapy. It helped me a whole lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): I am going through exactly the same problem at the moment. My fiance cheated on me for 3 months and now she is pregnant. I found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks before I found out about her baby but had an abortion,I just couldn't go through with the pregnancy knowing what he had been doing.The problem is that I love him so much and he says he desperately wants to be. He's cut off all contact with her, as she tricked him into getting her pregnant. I know that he was wrong for sleeping with her, but she told him that she couldn't have children and he stupidly believed her. I've been seeing him quite a lot, he calls me every day but it's difficult to see one another because my parents and friends know exactly what has happened and I know that they will have no respect for me if I allow him back in to my life. They've told me that. But I love him with all my heart and I want to be with him, I've made the decision to work hard at it and give it time. I think you will have to do the same, you need to take time to yourself and work out exactly what you want in life. Do you think you could forgive him? Do you think you could share a bed with him knowing that he'd been unfaithful? I know that I find these questions hard, I find it hard to believe things that he tells me because I know that he's been capable of lying to such an awful extent. I really feel for you, I know how you're feeling and I know how much it hurts.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 well you want to do what is best for you.
if you feel you can't trust him and you've got a child on the way and feel maybe he won't be there for you as much as you need him to be.
you need to do now what is best for you and your child.
whether you can trust him to be a father to your child and be a boyfriend/husband to you.
if you feel you can't trust him then that's it the relationship will be over but you need to do what you feel is better for YOU and your unborn.
you don't want to bring a baby into the world with an unhappy environment with you constantly worrying where he is and who he's with and what time he'll get back will other girls be pregnant?
you need to think hard on this and decide what is better for you and your baby.
hope this helps lovely!
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 He will do everything to get you back. Pity he didn't abstain from doing something to keep you.
Oh well, here is a simple test. Ask him to get vasectomy so he never gets another woman pregnant. Don't have to mean it, but I am pretty sure that this does not fall under "everything" that he would do to get you back.
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