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writes:7 months ago I've meet a guy, through a common friend. He just broke up with his girlfriend 9 months ago. After meeting him in person, we continue our communication through email,chat and text and sometimes call 'coz we are miles away, and we just see each other once every after a month. Within those months, we developed a very close friendship, like using endearments, being sweet and saying miss you's with each other. One time when we see each other, he mentioned that he realize he want me to be in his life forever and he can't never afford not to have me in is life, that he was so Blessed knowing me and having me in his life as his friend and we will be friends no matter what. He also said, when he decide on one thing it will never change no matter what.Now, some of his friends introduce/match him to other girls, which he also told me. Before I dont mind if he will meet other girls, but the last time we see each other and told me that he will be meeting someone, i felt hurt. Though he told me that he would rather stay with me than meet them and nothing's gonna happen with him and her coz he don't feel right about this girl. He even ask me to come with him while meeting those girls, which of course i don't agree. My problem is, I realize that I'm falling for him, do I have to tell him what i feel for him? (He have already clue that I'm gonna tell him something about us) Is it through email or in person? If in person I will wait another month before I can unload my feelings. And Is it possible that he will also like our relationship to move to the next level like being more than friends? Despite the fact that he wants to keep me as friends forever. Any advise is very much appreciated, thank you so much.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 i really dont know how he feels in terms of having a relationship with u but the best thing u can do is tell him your feelings.
its not nice to have these feelings bottled up unexpressed, explain to him how much u really like him.
see what he says,
becoz if u dont ask u will never know
as for telling him on email or face to face,
i personally would email him, explain everything (as if ur writing a personal letter to him) then ask him how he feels for u (in that way or not) and then leave it to him to respond.
this is totally upto u,
altho i think if u told him face to face u would have to wait longer to unburden these feelings, plus its alot more pressure on the day !
good luck whatever u decide!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): I think if you would like to tell him how you feel, it would be best to do it in person, face to face. I know you will have to wait longer, but for something like this, I think it is important. By email, it can be hard to get the message across clearly, and things can get misunderstood. And if he didn't respond, you would be left wondering what he is thinking.I was in a similar situation once, and I waited until I could speak to this guy in person. It takes more courage, but I think it is worth it!It is possible that he would like to be more than friends with you. Maybe he isn't sure how you feel, and he is waiting to be sure. I think that, once you have told him how you feel, you will get your answer from him, and know where you stand. Good luck, I'll be thinking of you! x
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