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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My sex life has been in a lull since I've been pregnant, and particularly since I started showing. It seems whenever I want to have sex, but husband isn't that interested, but when he's usually interested, it's in the middle of the night when I'm sleeping. I miss having fiery hot sex or even making love (during regular hours with eye contact etc), anything but midnight or early morning quickies. Sometimes I feel like it has to do with my changing body, but when I ask, he says he loves my growing figure. Other than being pregnant, I'm petite and fit; it's not like I'm letting myself go by any means. I know he looks at porn fairly often, just nude pics. That doesn't bother me, but it is an indicator that he does think about sex more often than he gives it to me. I've asked him if he's concerned about "hurting the baby" or anything like that and he says no. I've made an effort to sext him throughout the day, but he's not as responsive as he used to be. Besides wearing matching undies, there's really no other lingerie I can wear to incite him now, since my belly's growing. I have fabulously voluptuous tits now, but he rarely even caresses and appreciates them when we are intimate. Since I've been pregnant, I've been so horny and so eager to feel more intimate with him, but I feel like he's pulled away a bit and isn't as interested. What can I do to rekindle the flame?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (18 January 2013):
Hi there. Very often when a woman becomes pregnant, a man begins to look at her as being a mother.
It puts you into the "Mother" category, at any rate.
And I honestly believe this is a big part of his change in attitude towards having sex with you, now.
It's probably more psychological, than being about your physical appearance.
He could be feeling that if you were to have an orgasm, that it might bring on an early labour.
However, this is something you could definitely check out with your doctor, regards what you can do and can't do when it comes to having sex, during pregnancy.
If you could talk to your obstetrician about this - or even your family GP - it will certainly put your mind at ease, and your husband's mind as well.
Good luck.
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