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writes:I just have a question...how many of you women out there had a baby by a man and felt like he couldnt understand what you were going through? Im getting so fed up with my boyfriend because everytime we get into a fight he wants to blame it on the hormones because im 15 weeks pregnant with our first child...and it pisses me off to no end! I keep telling him the jokes bother me about me being so called bitchy and the hormones but he keeps doing it! How do I get him to understand Im alot more sensitive to stuff like that now? He calls me a bitch all the time when we fight and he knows how upset I get about it! Its like he doesnt care! any advice about how you dealt with it? Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, BehindThese HazelEyes +, writes (13 November 2009):
BehindThese HazelEyes is verified as being by the original poster of the question Nae nae, thanks for your input. He apologized this morning and said he didnt understand what I was going through and that hes just as nervous as I am. Its also his first child as well, so neither one of us has been through it before...He also said he was going to try to be more sympathetic to my feelings and not joke like that anymore. I do believe he is a great guy, always there for me, and he wants this child as much as I do...thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009): Honey sorry you are going thru this, really pregnancy is a difficult time sometimes harder for some, what also makes it hard is when you have to deal with a baby daddy who behaves like a child, even if your angry because of hormones or him, thats no excuse he needs to be understanding, but you need to get out if you can, go to the spa treat your self whenever you can,try to do things you enjoy, that is also very important for your baby, but i know it will be difficult, but you need to be strong, I had a baby myself and my baby daddy was an A- hole sometimes, maybe try writing him a note telling him how you feel,again! try asking him to accompany you to doctors appointments, shopping for baby items, etc get him involved, but i must also tell you that sometimes it is difficult for men as well during this time, for various reasons mostly they are not sure how to deal with it, but they usually settle soon, but Another thing, i dont want to upset you more or scare you, but sometimes guys who react like this during a pregnancy or trying times is really showing their true colours, so be really careful of his behavior, from what you mentioned he is being verbally/emotionally abusive to you, that is no way to speak to someone who is having your baby, scared of the situation or not, so be mindful of these things, take care of yourself and your baby. I hope he settles down.
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