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writes: i am 5 months pregnant and have just split with the father of my baby i thought he was the love of my life but he was just a user now i dont know what to do im scared and now im alone, i just cant understand how someone i loved so much could treat me like this.i need advice on where i go from here???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Hello,The same thing happened to me, - at 6 weeks pregnant. We lived together and were engaged. It wasn't planned but he said he was delighted. I gave him the option to 'duck out' as i didn't want to be a single mum but he insisted i didn't have an abortion and that we wud stay together. I then found out he was cheating and left him...I felt cheated and had to move to another part of the country back to my parents which was tough. I fell to pieces and lost my job. I felt conned. The relationship had been one big fat lie. So i am pregnant, jobless, devastated and back at my parents. HOWEVER i then found the scan to be twins!!! i looked to the future and JUMPED at this miracle, got a job and a new home. Made new friends and am currently expecting a healthy girl and boy 8 months preg now. Their dad is a twin himself and wants nothing to with them which beggars belief. He now wants a paternity test (the latest pathetic stab in the saga which is fine by me). My point being i have never been as happy or felt so positive about the future. The strength thru support from others has been phoenominal, and you can too be in my shoes. The love from these arms and legs, the bad backs and the lack of sleep (can't get comfy enough to sleep) i would not change for anything or anyone. Your man, like mine is a LOSER. Fact. You can be happy and strong on your own.... Put your energies in to hobbies, and what a great person you are, and what a good mum you will be and you will soon forget him.... I wish i could be pregnant forever now, - and i have been through hell this year. Enjoy your baby and your blooming state. - its a damn special time. don't let it be ruined by looking back and regrets...hope this helps,Jen xx
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reader, donna83 +, writes (15 August 2006):
donna83 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust thought i would update this i left him refused all contact until he got his act together and grew up well he is really trying and making me feel supported and special but we will see how long it lasts thanks for the advice
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reader, Tine  +, writes (7 August 2006):
 the only way to go from here is up. You do not need someone in your life who is only going to lose you and break your heart. Im sure you have family and friends around you and now that you are single and pregnant you need them now more than ever. Your family and close friends will not let you go through this on your own and it would be wrong for you to hide yourself from their attention. You dont need a man in your life to make it complete, you have a child about to come into the world so make the time you have now before it comes to build the healthiest home possible for it. if this guy is worth even thinking about he will apologise to you for the things he has doen to hurt you if he doesnt then he is not worth knowing. When he sees you walking about with your head held high and looking great he'll realise what an ass he's been!
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reader, doublethink +, writes (7 August 2006):
 I think maybe you said it - "someone i loved so much..." - it seems that maybe his feelings weren't equal to yours? Maybe the responsibility of fatherhood scared him? It's hard to see how he wouldn't be excited, but still, it's a big step.
Anyway, I think what you need to do now is find other means of support - friends and family. Most people are delighted by the arrival of a baby, so I'm sure they'll be glad to help. You don't have to cope alone.
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