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writes:my husband left me a month ago and last week i found out he is seeing someone else, we have a 3yr old son and i am currently 22weeks pregnant with our 2nd child. my world is collasping around me i can't do anything other than cry i am upsetting my son and i feel nothing towards the baby i am carrying. i feel that that i am never going to be happy again and each day its getting worse. i am awaiting counselling at work, but i just feel so low and desperate. my husband did this to me when i was pregnant with our son, so i don't no if its just a problem he has dealing with pregnancy. i no that i need to forget about him but its so hard. he is a great dad and sees our son 3-4 times a week. i haven't had any contact with him other than texts to make arrangments for our son. everyone tells me that his current relationship will fail because he hasn't delt with his feeling for me and that he will be wanting me back in a few weeks, just like last time. i no i shouldn't be with someone like that but its easier to forgive him then it is to move on. please help me i just want to be happy and enjoy my children. i don't want to see my husband as he has hurt me so much. what can i do to get out of this desperate situation?
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reader, Serenity1  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 I just want to send my apologies for your current circumstance, but my husband did the same thing to me. All but I wasn't pregnant for the second time. We do have a 4yr old together and he's been out of our lives for about 2yrs now. He calls every now and again, but only to discuss his son. And let me not forget to tell you I plan to get a divorce in 01/09.
My husband not only abandon me and his son but he has got TWO other girls pregnant during the 2yrs we've been apart. We got married at a fairly young age, but that still doesn't excuse his actions.
I've said all this to say sweet heart tear away now. He's a loser and a coward. Any man(boy) that abandons their marriage is not ready for responsiblilty nor commitment obviously. And you said this is the second time he's done it he'll continue to leave you anytime he wants to as long as you keep allowing it. You said he's dating/seeing someone else, don't keep the door open for him to run back if they don't work. You have to teach him that you will not tolerate that kind of treatment. I know this is hard but with a little prayer and support from friends/family you WILL get through. Trust me. Hope this helps.
Try not to cry in front of the 3yr old, it'll only make him feel the pain you're feeling and he doesn't deserve that nor does the one you're carrying.
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