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writes:There a guy that in high school we were cloe and wanted to get involved but slowly drifted apart after goin to college. He's married and I am widowed. He has been looking for me. Surprise he found me. We have talked on several occasions and enjoy conversation. He calls me every day on his break at work. We haven't seen each other in about 36 years. Now he wants to see me and I want to see him even though he is married. We have acknowledged that we still have that deep down feeling. We want to see each other not to say that we will hook up. Should I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2011): Are u angling to become his mistress.
I know being a widow gets very lonely at times but taking another woman's hb?? Hell NO.
Don't become something/someone you will not be proud of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): Leave him alone, he's married.What part of "He's married" makes you think you'll ever be anything more than something he lies to his wife about???
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): " Surprise he found me"This is far from surprise.. Sorry, but today anybody can be found who is on face-book, or on a net anyhow.Several marriage broke down since this new revoltion because of the wondering old flames.It is a good system to bring people together, but sadly its not always bringing together the right ones.Please try to look behind the facts.Take care
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (3 July 2011):
 He is married. END OF STORY.
Anything more than friendship makes you a mistress.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 Hello,
As hard as it may be, i would let this go now. By dipping your feet in the water you could begin an affair with this man. it may start slowly and friendly but all of a sudden you may get in a position where you start having deep feelings for him. Sometimes, you just have to close a book. It was 36 years ago and that's where things should be left. Picture his wife and picture how devastated she could be. Don't be the woman that wrecks that.
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reader, hopeFUL_romantic_13  +, writes (3 July 2011):
I'm sorry but I don't think you should 'hook up.' He's married now, meaning he's UNavailable. He made a commitment to another woman and now he has to live by it. Surely you don't want to be a home worker. Does he have any children? After 36 years of marriage, he most likely will. If he does, they're all adults now. Judging from your post, it seems as if the two of you never really had any closure, and what you're experiencing now is the curiosity of what could/might have been. You want to experiment and see just how real that deep feeling is. At the end of the day, it's your choice. Should you decide to pursue an affair, ask him if he would be so willing as to leave his wife for you. There's nothing worse than a cheating spouse. Thirty-six years is a long time.
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