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writes: Hi everyone! My bf and I have been together for a yr now but I still feel really paranoid about a few girls he talks to. It all started one night when a girl he'd told me about was texting him on a night out. I wasn't there that night but apparently he was being pestered by her and she was texting him. (They had a short fling before i met him) Not quite believing what these texts said, I looked through his phone,finding suggestive texts saying she 'wouldnt find out something' unless she left the club with him. We've put this episode behind us after a huge row but now there's a new girl who he has to see through work roughly once a week. They share a lot in common and today instead of saying he was with me when she rang, he said he was cooking! I stormed out the house. Am i being irrational? What should i do? I dont want to feel paranoid and it affect our relationship anymore!!! Please help!
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reader, Tine  +, writes (18 September 2006):
 if you have not already done so i think that you should sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel on this subject. He was not helping matters when he said that he was cooking instead of telling this girl that he was with you.
But then again you should think to yourself, well I am the one that he has chosen to be in a relationship with therefore you are the one he choses to spend him time with, not these other girls. If he really wanted to start something with them would he not have dumped you and done it by now??
Maybe these girls are infact just friends however your boyfriend does have to realise how it looks from your point of view and the only way he is going to be able to do that is if you show him..
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