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writes:I'm 19, female, and a freshman in college. It's been a great first year and just like high school, I have a small small group of close friends. Actually, only really one who I hang out with and do everything with. And I'm afraid that I've started liking him more than a friend...Okay, first, I've never had a boyfriend before. When I was in highschool, sure there were guys I liked, but as far as I know, no one liked me (that parts not really the issue). I once asked a guy who at that point was a pretty good friend if he wanted to go see a movie with me. We never spoke again even though we shared classes. I guess that I'm kind of scared to have a boyfriend because I don't want it to turn out that way again. I like to say that I'm in love with the idea of being in love.Second, I consider him to be my best friend. And if this whole thing were to totally blow up in my face, I don't have too many (*coughanycough*) other friends to support me. Also, I consider him to be my best friend, but I don't know if he considers me to be the same. I kind of figure as such because if he weren't, we wouldn't hang out as much as we do. We sit around and watch movies, study together, eat dinner together. We poke and tickle each other and play Red Hands and joke around. I guess what I'm saying is that I want to be more than friends, but I definitely don't want to lose our relationship in the process. Everything I read and have been told tells me to go for it, but how? And when? What's the easiest and least-painful way to ask?Thanks in advance for the advice and help. It certainly means a lot.
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reader, honestman  +, writes (2 April 2011):
Please,do yourself a big favor, and tell him your feelings. If you can't find words, get him to a place you can be alone, look into his eyes, and kiss him. Don't tell him nothing until you get tired of kissing.From my own experience, it is far better telling your feelings to someone, than to regret forever not having said or done something about it. I'm 26 years old. I still regret no having told the girl I liked on high school that I loved her. I know she would have probably rejected me, or dumped me in a month or two, but at least I would have tried, and I wouldn't been regretting not doing it as I do right now.Also, don't get upset if he rejects you. If he is really your friend, he'll remain your friend. If he accepts to be your boyfriend, and then you break up, I'm sure you can still be friends. Breaking up is no like a divorce of something. Also, don't get mad, angry, o cry if he regrets you. Just try to keep it deep inside, then go to your bedroom, and scream, shout, cry, and do whatever you want. I hope this helps.
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