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writes:Im 25 years old, and no matter how turned on I am , even when I orgasm I just dont get wet. I have been sexually active and masturbating for years and I dont have any problems getting sexually aroused. I have just never ever got wet.I don't have any hormone imbalances and Im not on any form of medication or hormonal contraception at the moment (Even when I have been on hormonal contraception I still had the same problem)I Do get normal vaginal discharge which sometimes provides JUST enough lubrication for penetration but normally we have to use lube which kills the mood slightly.It doesn't bother my partner at all but it bothers me coz It makes me feel as though my body isn't working as it should (a bit like how a man would feel if he couldn't get an erection).There is no reason whatsoever for this to be psychological, I have never been sexually abused in anyway and I am sexually confident, and didn't lose my virginity till I was ready, never had any particularly bad sexual experiences etc.Please dont just say use lube coz I already do and although it helps me to have sex, that is not the answer I am looking for. What I would like is to not have to use lubrication or spit at all because my body should produce it naturally.Could it just be that this is just the way Im made or a sure sign that something is wrong with me?I hear of this problem in menopausal middle aged women or women hat have had a hysterectomy but I am 25 and healthy! I know that some women can be dry temporarily but I have NEVER gotten wet ever! (and I haven't got any STI's btw, I have always gotten checked out when I have needed to)P.S. I dont have a gspot by the way and yes I have tried everything such as gspot vibrators etc and I know exactly where it is supposed to be etc, I simply haven't got one. So please dont tell me to stimulate my gspot, that is not the issue. It shouldnt matter whether I am aroused by clitoral stimulation or even mentally aroused I should still get wet either way.Sorry for the essay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): I had exactly the same problem at your age and even went to my GP and used lubrication all the time during sex. There was nothing wrong with me but I was paranoid for years.
Now I have the opposite problem. I am in my 30's and I get too wet. I dont know what the answer is except I wish I hadnt worried about it like I did because whatever was going on was normal for me then and its normal for me now. I would suggest you carry on using lube and tell your boyfriend even though you are really turned on you dont get wet and its just normal for you and I am sure he wont care at all. In fact he may prefer it as it gives him more grip.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (24 November 2010):
 BTW, Something that I forgot to add...
Most women will need to supplement her own natural lubrication depending on how long penetrative sex takes place for too, it's natural to need a little help if you plan on spending Sunday in bed, for example, so, having a 5 minute quickie, no, having sex for 40 minutes, most women would need some lube.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (24 November 2010):
Don't apologize for writing all the facts down, we appreciate getting them up front instead of having to pry it out or having more facts come out after we take the time to answer, so thanks for that!
Every woman is different and each woman goes through many stages throughout her life, even so, if this bothers you, you should be seeking the help of a specialist - and OB/GYN doctor. She/he may prescribe the same kind of vaginal application that they give menopausal women to produce more lubrication and relieve dryness if they feel that you need it after their diagnosis.
As a woman who has been having sex with the same man for the last 37 years, throughout EVERY stage of womanhood, take my advice, GET USED TO LUBES! Dryness happens. It's no reflection on you, your mate, your "love", your desire or your sex life, it's just a fact that happens to all women from time-to-time. Pregnancy, childbirth, aging and menopause are yet to come and these are all things that change your hormones! Lube shouldn't kill the mood, and you shouldn't be repeating to yourself in your head that this isn't 'normal' or that you aren't "working the way that you should be". And these days, with the web, there are SOOO many lubes - flavoured, heated, coloured.... etc., etc., etc.! It can be a useful sex toy and a part of your foreplay! "Astroglide" is an over-the-counter brand that is also pretty inert, odourless, colourless and non-staining for bedsheets and clothing. You can have him lubricate you orally or use your own saliva as well - which is portable and always with you!
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/sexual-health/saliva-as-lubricant
You know, the only 'normal' is what's normal for you and your OWN body. As far as the g-spot goes, it isn't a mythical place, it's just the place inside your vagina towards your urethra that make you feel like you are going to pee - which stimulates a 'release' response that triggers orgasm.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-Spot
It's described as an area about the size of a bean, but it's not an actual physical feature, it's a simply a sensitive area and it may not 'feel' obvious to you, which may change later in life when your vaginal walls thin.
Your natural lubrication may also change in the prime of your sexual years, your 30's. The main thing that you have conveyed to me is that YOU are concerned about this and view it as a problem, which makes it one in your mind SO...
If I were in your shoes, I'd find a good Gynecologist that YOU feel comfortable discussing EVERYTHING with, and ask them all of these questions. I highly recommend writing down a LIST and bringing your concerns WITH you. If you are nervous, you can ALSO bring a hand held voice recorder, saving the doctors replies and play the conversation back later in case you should forget any details. Hope this helps & Practice, Practice, Practice - lol!
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