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reader, fallinginlovee  +, writes (15 March 2011):
its not illegal to be in any relationship . but i feel you should be with who you wanna be with im going thourgh the same thing roght now which is really hard cause i fell hard for this guy . im 15 about to turn 16 in august and hes 18 going to be 19 in december not much of a big gap in our age but if u love someone what u do is your business i hate that there is a law about age and when u can do certain things this is suppose to be a free country . but anyway back to the topic . im going thru the same thing i cant seem to bare he says he doesnt wanna get in trouble for being with me all though he says he loves me we been together for 9 months this iswhy its bothering me i wouldnt want him to get in trouble either but mainly his friends keep telling him we shouldnt be together because of our age but i think they are just jealous someone please explain too me what i should do about this should we wait until i turn 16 .
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reader, RJayy16  +, writes (11 June 2009):
No its Not Illegal, the second you Turn 16 You can date anyone you like aslong as they are not more than 10 years older than you, but once you turn 18 you can date anyone you want of any age
i personally think that 3 years age gap is nothing as i am also 16 and my boyfriend is 19
i hope i helped :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): no!! its not illiegal and if you whant to have sex w/ him just dont go tellin enyone and it will be ok b/c if there is no fisical evedence than your ok and you can wash that off in the shower trust me i did that w/ my ex i was 14 and he was 22 so have fun but be safe!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): I have only been visiting this site a couple of days and I've seen this question a few times.
If you are a young woman under 18 years and your state does not permit you to have sex with guys who are over 18 or if there is some ridiculous 4 year arbitrary age difference enforced just because you are under 18, I would suggest that you write to your local legislator (anonymously if you want), and tell them your age and your boyfriend's age and tell them the laws are ridiculous.
State your case and describe some detail regarding your individuality and the reason you may think the law is arbitrary. If you are mature enough to have a serious relationship then you are mature enough to address it with people who would make it illegal.
I'm convinced the US needs to adjust it's justice system to stop criminalizing normal behavior such as this. It may be socially unacceptable for a 30 y.o. to have sex with a 16 y.o. but it certainly should not be illegal IMO.
I guess it's largely a matter of perspective but I moved in with my wife when she was 16 and I was 22 so I can relate to this situation and many years later we are still very happily married even though everyone at the time thought I was a perv.
Our youth is not so helpless that they need our protection that much. Many of them can speak for themselves and make their own decisions by the time they are 16.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): Hey,
im sure it's not legal, since i'm in a relationship with someone whos 19 too, but i'm 15. We have freedom in who to fall in love with right? but underaged sex is something else...
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reader, love-him +, writes (28 June 2007):
 No babe the relationship isnt illegal but if u have sex before ur 18 ( i think its that where u live, where i live its 16) then its ok, mail me if u wanna tlak x x x x
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reader, DV1 +, writes (28 June 2007):
 As long as you wait until you're of legal age to have sex, it's fine. If you try to tempt him, he'll be in jail for years, and there will be no relationship...
DV1
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reader, Vane +, writes (28 June 2007):
 No girl it's not!!!! Stop worrying. AND HAVE FUN WITH YOUR GUY!!!! P.S.Message me if you want to talk. -Vanessa(Vane)
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (28 June 2007):
 I think to have a romantic relationship is legal, but in the USA any sexual relationship between you two will be illegal and get him in alot of trouble
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (28 June 2007):
 absolutly not hun, no relationship is illegal, only under age sex is. u have fun but take care x
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