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writes: help me i am addicted to porn at age 13 plz help me i like it at first but then i feel disgusted and sick wid myself how do i stop lukin at it plz help me!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): dont feel ashamed of looking at porn its natural for all people to look at porn your just discovering your sexuality
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): Whenever you get this craving for looking at pornography, take a deep breath and do something else. I was even younger than you when I did the same thing and felt disgusted afterwards. I thought there was something wrong with me, but of course there wasn't. It's totally normal but if you do feel horrible doing it find something else to do, go cycling or something else, watch tv whatever helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2006): thanks for all ur advice it worked i got myself a boy friend and i am too busy hanging out wid him and my mates to look at porn thx a lot u r all really supportive and you didn't judge me so thx again. xxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2006): hello all thank you for all ur advice i am the person who posted this question btw. I followed ur advice and talked to my mum she sed tht it was because i dont know any cute guys in the area yet so she took me to a summer club where i met some new friends and a lad who is now my bf so thank you all so much it really helped me. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): You are a brave girl to admit you have a porn addiction. Good for you and this is the first step to recovery, hun. Most addicts, regardless of age, will deny their struggle. You are not doing this. Where are your parents here? Your parents should be monitoring you constantly and ..."parenting" you. They need to know you are going through this. Can you talk to them? If not, seek some help through a school counselor or a minister, if you have one. They need to help you restore you to sexual and spiritual health. Sex addiction is never really about sex, but about the void in one’s spirit. Porn sexual addictions can hinder one's view of intimacy and a healthy sexuality by causing you to see others as little more than objects of sexual gratification. As a young girl, coming into an age where you are dating and learning about self-control and morals in regards to sexual behaviours, this is disturbing. Porn addiction will not help you develop the confidence, the self-control you require, in this area that could create many horrid consequences in your future. (pregnancies, lack of self-love, std's) I am truely concerned about you. Please seek some help from your parents. Let them guide you and help you through this. good luck hun and keep us posted on how you make out.
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reader, caraduddy  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 I think its great and im 13 to. Whats wrong with it? But if you don't like your obsession try watching other things and doing activities to take your mind off it you can stop yourself if you try. When you see porn on the channel or something switch it off..when adverts come up on the computer .. ignore them..you dont have to watch it if you put your mind to it
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (15 August 2006):
 I suggest that instead of trying to see less porn, you should look at it so much to the extent that you get bored of it.
Look at porn constantly for as long as you can stand, and keep at it til the day when you think "porn? BORING!"
And don't feel disgusted at yourself. Loads of people look at porn.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): 1. Watching porn isn't wrong. its about being human and growing up. Dont beat yourself up, ok you have a problem babe but its natural, youre not a freak there are slightly over a thousand other female minors in the UK with this problem and many more worldwide, and more research discovers that 1 in 10 people watch too much porn. So its NOT just your problem and its NOT just people in other age groups, its NOT rare at all.
2. Ok, now we know that people have this common problem and have overcomed it, that gives you hope, you are not by no means in a dead end.
3. What did you do before this addiction? try carrying on what you did before but DONT AVOID the porn you will only give in, just LIMIT how much you see, and by all means even though you arent old enough to buy adult entertainment its natural for girls your age to enjoy it. So never plan to progress to seeing no porn you will only one day default back to having an addiction again!!
4. You are likely to be going through puberty even if you not only just started, so you have created an obsession with porn because you never liked it before and you have developed into having sexual feelings which co-inside with the porn, these feelings are like a new toy or skill for you so you are going to over use it like you have because you are amazed as it makes you feel so good.
5. So these feelings give you cravings and you turn to porn. You need to first DECREASE the frequency of these cravings and OCCUPY yourself with other things. One of the possibilities is to have SEX and LOSE your virginity if you havn't already done so then you will be more in touch with your body and be able to decrease the cravings, however, please dont do this. Decrease your cravings by occupying your feelings and urges on a boyfriend whether in general or by occassioanlly masterbating each other.
6. Respect your body, hold out til you are older but if you wish to experiment with others sexual parts and exploration to discover yourself then do so.
7. Minors who have sex are more likely to catch diseases and get pregnant then others. Mainly because:
* the pill doesnt stop STI's/STD's (if you use that method)
* the vagina is generally small so the condom is alot more likely to split then an older and more sexually experienced female. This increases without proper lubrication and without a proper defloration first. So wait until your 16, its much safer!!
Hope this helps, Dan
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reader, carlyuk +, writes (15 August 2006):
 if u really want to stop you will have to try very hard and when you want to look at it try and find something else to occupy your mind. like take up a hobby.Or start to read. hope this helps xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): Hello. Can I ask if you're a virgin? I had the same problem when I was about 14. I'm slightly older now. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with a bit of porn, but certainly not at that age.
Where do you see this porn, on the internet? On telly?
Stopping this addiction really depends on your will-power. If you truly want to stop, then you can bring yourself to do it. If it's on the computer & your comp is in your room with the door locked, open the door. Make it so that you CAN'T watch it incase you get caught. There are a lot of fun things you can do online rather than watch porn.
I don't blame you if you are just curious though. I was curious. What stopped me was losing my virginity which is DEFINITELY not recommended.
Get a boyfriend, just have fun loving him, it should take your mind off this addiction.
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