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writes:About 2 months ago, i had sexual intercorse with my boyfriend even though i am only 12 YEARS OLD!!! i really regret it because i started my period a year ago and i havent had my period for ages! and i think i might be pregnant. i am really scared. please help me. im only 12 :(
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reader, adimentio  +, writes (20 September 2009):
stay calm im 12 not preagnet but i study about it...stay calm.tell your parents because they can help u k
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): See babes, it wasn't that bad, you've been very, very brave to go and take this to your mum. She shouted and she got angry, but your still alive, it must have been terrible for you, but now your not alone. Your only 12, your mum knows that and she knows that children sometimes makes mistakes. The worse thing that could have happened was for you to be alone and frightened, but you don't have to be alone any more, your mum knows everything and she we look after you, and no matter what she still loves you. Sorry about the boyfriend, but boys (or men) that have sex with girls at your age are really no good. A boy who loves you would have waited, he would have wanted to protect you and he wouldn't have left you alone and worried, to deal with this by yourself. You are too young to date and too young to have sex... But it doesn't matter now, all we have to do is to wait to see what the doctor says.
Yes your mum is angry, but once this is all sorted out, she will calm down. Yes she may protect you more, but because this is because you have done something wrong. She doesn't want to punish you, but she will be frightened in case you have sex again. Your mother is your best friend, and she will do everything in her power to keep you very safe.
I am proud of you for having the courage to go and tell your mum. Please update us about your situation if you can, we are all hoping your periods are irregular and you are not pregnant at all... Blessings babes, take care, and be safe next time. All adults know that Condoms are the only way to keep yourself safe, but I suggest you don't do the sex thing again until you are older....Take care of you, always...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have spoken to my mom and i was soooo scared :( she did shout a lot and won't let me see my bf no more. but im 12 and i will do very stupid things. she has helped me get a appointment at the doctors so i will see what they say. thnx 4 all ur help i really appreciate it :)
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reader, shna  +, writes (1 November 2008):
 im really sorry that you feel this way and that you are in this situation at this age the best thing for you to do would be to buy a pregnany test?? and of course the most important thing here is did you use protection ??? sometimes when girls start theyre period in the first few years they can become irregular due to you diet and activity levels etc etc i would advice you to take a test and find out for certain. let me no how you get on ok
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2008): I understand that you are sorry and that you regret it now and it is okay. What have you decided to do now? Have you spoken to mom yet?
Keep us posted
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2008): I would disagree that you are stupid, but what you did was very stupid. You are young and will do stupid things so you should calm down. You should talk to your mother because you prob feel very loney right now and it would help to have her security and love. You should definitely take a preg test or go to the doctors. Get tested for any diseases too, to be safe. And if you are totally against talking to your mother, then at least have a friend with you. Your period would be irregular since you just got it. And it, sometimes, might always be irregular, as it is will me. Stressing over it only delays it. I hope that you are not preg though because it will kill you to have a baby at that age. I wish you all the luck and please be safe and smart. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your help! I know I am very very stupid to be having sex at 12 but, I dunno, I regret it sooo bad now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2008): go to a doctor
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reader, -MISSMCKAY- +, writes (30 October 2008):
 ok first of all, i think you should speak to your mum and explain to her whats been going on and that you think you are pregnant. It could be that you are irregular, however to be on the safe side i would do the test. One thing - yes you are too young to be having sex, but if you are going to do it please be safe. Take Care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): Your periods might be irregular because you are still very young. You need do have a pregnancy test done. You might also have to be tested for venereal diseases and AIDS.
Because you are only 12, I think you should talk to your mom. Tell her that you are worried about your periods, ask her to take you to the doctor.
You might be scared to talk to your mom, but believe me, know matter what you have done, she is your mom and she loves you and will help you the best way she can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): There's only one way to find out hunni!
Take a pregnancy test!
If you dont want to buy one go to the doctors they test for free and depending on the surgery it will be confidential.
If not that get a best friend to buy a pregnancy test for you!
But remeber periods aren't regular for about 1/2 years after you start them!
Good luck I hope it's helped!
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reader, Jack_McVeigh  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 ok honey chill out and relax. dont panic. book an appointme with your local GP/doctor/school nurse etc and tell them. they will be able to tell whether or not you are pregnent. you're 12.. VERY young!! dont tell your bf until you are sure either way. if you aren't then forget about it!! if you are well.. whether or not you'll keep it.. you need to ask your heart whether to say anything.
but before you do anything.. consult you doctor ASAP!!
good luck
take care...
Jack P McVeigh
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (29 October 2008):
before i give you any advice i am going to say that you are very stupid to be having sex at 12 years old! that is insane and you are obviously not responsible to be having sex at that age, as you now face a pregnancy scare! seriously why are such young KIDS having sex?!!!!!!
all i can say is have a pregnancy test if you are that scared. if you don't want to do it yourself tell your mum. it is most probably negative, as you are only 12 your body is still developing and periods may not be regular.
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