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writes:I am a 60ish man who got to know a 30ish young lady at work. At first she seemed attracted and very interested in me. I wasn't too interested but she did spur my attention. I got to know and enjoyed her company. Everything seemed pretty platonic. But know after getting to know her I can't stop thinking about her. I am very interested and attracted to her now.But as my bad luck would have it she got put on an afternoon shift,which leaves me never being able to see her and it may be months or longer before I can see her again. I would really like to see her again. I enjoy being with her. Any one got some advice???
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2019): Female anon again. I meant build a social life outside work. You're too fixated on this one person. There are tons of women out there who would be open to dating you. Just not some girl young enough to be your daughter. You need to join groups. Dancing clubs. What are your passions in life? It seems you're in a rut and grasping at straws.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2019): Sorry, OP. You're dreaming. A man your age should know better. Be much more realistic. I was always friendly to old men in my workplace. It's who I am but also part of the job. I knew they looked at me with dreamy eyes. AH, IF ONLY... But the minute they took it upon themselves to impose their fantasies on me, I was actually insulted. It's inappropriate and unprofessional. Build a social life outside with. She's just a fantasy.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 September 2019):
 It also comes to mind that Bogart was still married with actress Mayo Methot, when he took up with Bacall . It would be interesting to know Methot's opinion about her husband 's May-December romance. Well, actually we know it; she was not amused- she kicked him out once, took him back upon his request , then SHE divorced him in 1945.
What about you, OP ? Are you completely single, and free to pursue your attractions in case you choose to do that, or… ?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 September 2019):
 Are you really sure you want to date her? Are you prepared for rejection? Have you dated other women in your workplace? Are you single? Do you have children? If yes, are they her age?
Your question suggests you don’t really know what you want and perhaps need some self-reflection about courage, self-awareness and also being appropriate in a workplace.
What kind of workplace is this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2019): Bogart and bacall come to mind they had a 26 year difference and had 2 children together. They loved each other very much. She was 19 he was 45 when they met.
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reader, KeW  +, writes (12 September 2019):
 Hi there,I believe it is still platonic and it would be wise to remind yourself that she is half your age and unlikely to have been after anything but a nice conversation. I would advise trying to date women 50+ who don't want children and are interested in the same things as you. You are not old by any means, but you are to a 30-something.If you see her again, you can ask her out for coffee, but it's unlikely she'd even realise you meant it romantically because most 30ish year old women wouldn't imagine that from a man twice their age.I think it has shown you that you are perhaps a bit lonely and would like some female companionship, which you're not likely to get from a 30-something year old woman, unless it's purely platonic. It would be good for you to join a club for something you enjoy, like cooking, reading, bird watching, jogging, travelling, etc. and meet some new friends through that.Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2019): I'd disavow yourself of the belief that she's interested in you romantically. It's pretty unlikely that she was being anything but friendly. If she really really in interested she'll be in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2019): Ask her if she would like to get coffee. She'll either say yes or no. I wouldn't have your hopes up though. Realistically, most 30-something women wouldn't be interested in a 60-something man. Like you said, it was platonic. I'm sure she was just being normal and friendly,and you perhaps read it the wrong way.
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