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writes: Recently, I've noticed that I cannot get a boyfriend at all. My friends always have guys trying to be in relationships with them, and this makes me jealous.Everyone tells me to wait, I'll find someone soon but in my opinion, I don't think I will.I'm not ugly, I'm not fat, In my opinion, I have a good personality...why is no one intrested?
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reader, bonym  +, writes (18 November 2006):
 You said: I'm not ugly, I'm not fat, In my opinion, I have a good personality...why is no one intrested?
I agree with the anon reader below, so ugly, fat people shouldny get boyfriends, but people like you should? I think I am ugly, well I have thought it for 18 years, I am 23 and wish I was prettier, yet I have men falling over me everyday, telling me how beautiful and cute I am and how I have a nice body. You need to realise that men dont just want to date "pretty", "thin girls". I am thin, hence my alias bonym, but I was single for AGES so being thin or rather not being fat didnt help me in the slightest. Some men want girls who are respectful, decent, charming, etc etc. I dont think its my looks that attract men, but something does, so you need to realise that when the time is right, you will find someone. You cant be making statements like that and expect people to sympathise with you, its cruel. xXx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (18 November 2006):
 No one is coming along for you because you are thinking about it too much; I agree with an earlier post in that you shouldn't want what your friends have as it really isnt the basis for a happy relationship. When you are looking for someone you could be giving the impression that you are desperate for a boyfriend...being single is ok and it helps you appreciate when someone special comes along. I have always been suspicious of people who skip from one relationship to the next as it stinks of shallowness...that old cliche is right, you really do find someone when you are least looking. There is no stigma in being single (although I appreciate it feels that way sometimes) but there is plenty of shame in being with a man just to fill the void and pass the time. If you are as special as you think you are from your post, perhaps you should work on your confidence to know that finding the right person is inevitable but not needed at this exact moment in time to lead a fulfilling and happy life.
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reader, pica +, writes (18 November 2006):
You say you want "a boyfriend" because all your friends have once. That's not the basis for a relationship - there needs to be mutual attraction, not just a vacancy. Try to put it out of your mind and concentrate on studying / working and enjoying life. Someone will turn up. I can promise you that you will not go through life never having a boyfriend ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006): The phrase 'im not ugly, im not fat' makes me believe you have horrible tact... Sorry but maybe you should work on that
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006): Are you short? Actually that was a joke. So, do you have a sense of humor? If so, you needn't worry. Your time will come (just recognize it when it does).
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