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*ememberthismoment_
writes:To start at the very beginning, I had a boyfriend, I slept with him and he pretty much left me straight after he got "what he wanted". I ended up heartbroken. He did it over text as well which didn't help.I'm already 'clinically' depressed according to my councilor and his consultant...But anyhow, no excuses. About a week after him breaking up with me... I joined a site called 'beNAUGHTY' (yes I do realize how sleazy I am :/), I met someone who wasn't just up for 'meets' (or in other words a quick shag before his wife got home), he's nineteen lives about 20 minutes away from me on a bus, I met up with him... (yes, it was in public, in my town center) we met a few times, he took me home I met his University house mates, who are lovely. I took him home and he met my family. They really like him just as much as I do. We entered a relationship, we had sex... I enjoyed it, he enjoyed it. We also started using the 'love' word after a while, I really do love him.But I was typing in a site on his internet browser, 'beNAUGHTY' was still on his thing, so I looked in his history, there were three sites, the one we met on and two that I'd never heard of. I questioned it, he said he was deleting his accounts because it was still charging his credit card, even though he wasn't using them. I thought okay, fine. I then asked further and said "did you talk to people on it?" he said "well, yeah, on one of them, when I was on it, but nothing like. what your probably thinking" which yes, I was questioning if he'd been talking 'dirty' to other girls. He said it was only like a "Hi, how are you? Where are you from?" conversation.And I sort of just want a second opinion because my depressed thoughts and feelings aren't as normal as yours and I can't talk to my family about it because they don't even know I was ever on a site like that...Please help me!
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reader, Love-Wisely  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 You guys are still getting to know each other. I think you have to allow at least three months for these kind of loose ends to get resolved. And to see if things will continue to get serious. The fact that he didn't clear his history before letting you use his PC is a good sign he wasn't doing anything he felt super guilty about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): Your depression is part of this problem. You are a bit paranoid I think. Wht check his browser, ok you found a few sites. Not you are stressing. Trust him for now or until you have GOOD reason not to. You'll destry what you have before it has a real start to establish
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