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writes:My bf and I have been broken up for 5 weeks and we were together for 2 years. We hung out this past Tuesday night for 5 hours, talking. It was amazing and he poured his feeling out to me and he told me how much he misses me and how much he thinks about me. He said he hasnt put any of our things away and then I asked if we are over for good. He said he doesnt think for good, but he also doesnt want to be back together in weeks. He kissed me and held me.Yesterday I sent him an email telling him how I felt since that night, and it was heart felt and sweet. Nothing that pushed him, or made me seem desperate. Short and sweet, and this is what he said back to me..Well I still stand by what I said about our chances. I don't want to get into stuff now, because we'll just be way apart again for the rest of the year. And we need time to be apart to see what exactly is going to happen. Like I said, not weeks, but also not years. If it happens, then it happens, but if we grow apart, then so be it. He went back to college today, 2 hours away. I'm not worried about this because last year I stayed with him there for a week at a time and i'm not worried about girls or any sort of college life there. So thats not the issue.I'm not sure if I'm taking what he said in the worst way. I want this boy back so back, and I know he wants me back to because I can tell by the way he was acting and talking to me that he means it. He always does this thing where he thinks with his head and thinks what might happen (negative) and not what he really wants. I was always the one to help him do that. What do I do now? How do I continue to get him back? Maybe without even talking to him I can still get him back? Reply to this Question
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reader, LittleAlfie +, writes (19 September 2010):
 I'm a firm believer in giving your partner space when they need it. Of course, worst case scenario, this is his way of putting you on the back burner so he can see if there's anything else out there for him. On the other hand, he may just need to spend a while soul searching and making personal adjustments to his life. Either way, though, it's healthiest for the both of you to just let him be for a while. Try not to contact him and use this time for yourself, too. Branch out and try to enjoy life on your own. Find personal satisfaction in your own independence. If you end up together again, your newfound strength will go a long way in solidifying your bond. If not, at least you've improved on yourself, and that will reflect well into future relationships. As dire as it all may seem at times, with the right attitude, you may find this to be a very positive and progressive time in your life.
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