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writes:I met this girl thats really nice and funny, and after a couple times of talking i asked her to get dinner and she said yes, so we set up a date for tommorow and all seems well but i found out today that she is 26 years old, I am only 21, is this a major problem?Granted i act older for my age and all my friends and people i hang out with are at least 25 years old, but i just got nervous because here i am in the middle of my College career, working at a pizza place, paying off bills, living with my parents and she is 26, graduated, working at job she got with her degree and is living in an apartment by herself, I'm afraid she will not want to waste her time with someone like me and find a guy who's her age that has a degree, his own car and wanting to settle down.What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (4 July 2009):
 What are you worried about? she said yes! here is a novel idea...maybe she likes you for you!!!!
Stop being so hard on yourself, my man.
Im 44 and the young lady I am currently casually seeing is 21 years my junior. We get along great because we both have realistic expectations. We both know it wont last forever and we aren't exclusive, and we both decided to keep it that way from the outset. We see each other when we want, and others when we want. We spend time together, screw like bunnies and go about our lives. We have fun while it lasts with no strings attached.
Once again, this lady likes you, and wanted to go out with you.
HAVE SOME FUN AND MAKE IT FUN! GO VERY SLOW!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (4 July 2009):
Don't worry about it. You're not even sure what her intentions are. She may just be dating around and wants to have fun. She may not even want a boyfriend right now, so things like that wouldn't even matter. Besides that, I'm 25 and dated a 22 year old. He was mature for his age and treated me well, and that's all that mattered. Sure, you may not be in the same place as her in your life, but at least you have goals. You're in college, you have a job, and you are being responsible. It would be different if you had no direction in your life and you were a couch potato with no job, bumming it at your parent's. Just relax and be yourself. Don't be ashamed of it. She'll respect your honesty. And if where you are in your life isn't up to her standards, then it is what it is. Don't let it get you down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): Age should not matter in a relationship if you are in love and really enjoy spending time with each other. You two are only 5 years apart which in my opnion, is fine. My mother is almost 9 years older than my father and they have been married for over 30 years! If she is the one, she won't leave you for someone who already has a degree and a successful career, she will wait for you. You sound like you really like her, so I would suggest you hold onto her, because you never know, she might just be the one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): I think just be yourself like you have always been. Age is not the first thing that came to your mind when you met her so dont let a number stop you. I myself was 21 and I feel for a 25 yr old. Weird? Not rly. He was hot, and yes like you , I was mature for my age, so I think she was attracted to that. You do sound considerate but don't put fake thoughts into your head as though you know what she is thinking, just roll with it and date her as normal.
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