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writes:I'm really confused!! I'm 22 and currently with my boyfriend of two years. I dont know if he is the one, I dont even know if I really wanna be in this relationship anymore, but at the same time in not sure about breaking up either. I think im just scared. Scared to be alone and single and lonely. I also dont wanna break his heart or hurt him, breaking up is the worst, and then I worry that I'll break up with him and realize that i've made a mistake... How do you know when he is mr. right? I guess if you're questioning it, you already know the answer..all my friends are in relationships and i dont wanna be single and on my own, my family is moving away this year too and I'm scared i'll be so lonely... i know i'm playing it safe, i just dont know how to get past it. He is a great guy, but I'm just not sure Reply to this Question
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 not a problem that's what we're here for to help :)
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhoa! This is the first time I have asked a question on this site, or any site of the sort, and i cant believe how helpful and encouraging all your answers were.
Thank you guys so much. You've given me some courage and clarity. I'm going to read all your answers over again and make my plan. I honestly thank you guys for being so kind, thoughtful and positive. Your advice has made me feel so much better.
I will keep you guys posted on my decision.
THANK YOU!
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reader, daglish  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 I would willingly exchange crosses with you. But the good news is you are not in a rush to do anything. Just like a Mirinda, a relationship cant be rushed in either direction. I would advise you not to break-up with him in words but you could effectively do it another way. First, you can reduce how frequently you meet him.
If you aren't certain whether you dont love him anymore. Look on the brighter side afterall if its meant to happen, he will be yours anyway.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 Perhaps you should consider moving where your family does. You don't have to live with them, but at least you'll have a network of familiar faces and you'll feel less alone. I think you already know the answer to your question. You have chosen someone "safe" but you may not truly "desire" him. I have been in that situation so I understand what you're going through. The longer you wait, the harder it will become. I believe if you feel restless, you need to see what's out there. You may later discover that he is the type of guy you really need, but at least you'll be making a more informed choice, than just playing it safe. Wish you the best.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (23 July 2009):
Hun if you're not sure then it's not right for you.
don't be afraid of being alone you won't be lonely forever you'll find the one and you'll know when he's the one you just will know. its hard to explain but you'll just know i mean you're doubting the relationship that shows you're already tired of the relationship and not meant to be.
but you won't let him go because your fear of being lonely.
you do need to tell him how you feel because it's unfair to drag the relationship on anymore if you're not feeling it.
i know what you mean about the friends and being single i'm like the only single one left but i don't mind because i get on well with there boyfriends and girlfriends so it's cool and i know when the times right it'll be right i've been asked out by guys but i've rejected because i know they're not the one.
just give it time and sometimes being single is much better just try not to worry too much about being alone and single.
just do what's right for yourself now and let him go.
Hope this helps :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x if you want to talk further please don't hesitate to message me. x
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reader, orlandblm8  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 It sounds like you need some you time.
Go out to a day spa, or take a trip out some where secluded where no one an get ahold of you.
That works, because by the end of the day, if time doesn't go by fast enough and your just dying to get home to hear his voice, or see him and tell him how much you miss him, then you'll know.
And if it's not like that. Maybe it's time for a break. People grow apart
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