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*ings_alot_chicky
writes:My ex wants me back and i want him back so he has been kissing me and calling me his gf again.I know how i feel about him, i know how he SAYS how he feels about me, but some times i don't believe it.My "BF" says he wants to marry me one day and wants to buy me a promise ring (hes 17 i am 15). he is saying he'll die for me and telling me a hole bunch of sweet stuff. But on his facebook it says he is still in a relationship with another girl, and she lives in North Carolina. He says he'll dump her if he has to but still hasn't. what can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): I should smack this guy upside his dome. WORDS WORDS WORDS! They don't mean sh*t. This guy is playing a game with you and that's a flag for real bad immaturity. He hasn't shown you any action. What has he done to show you his feelings?
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reader, raiders +, writes (28 March 2011):
 He has a girlfriend and he can be telling you all the nicest things in the world the fact is he has a GIRLFRIEND. He hasn't dumped her for you, and if his feelings and words were sincered he wouldn't string you along with false hopes. Words get taken by the wind sweetheart its the actions that count.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 March 2011):
 Action speaks louder than words, always! He's telling you one thing, but what he does is quite the other. What he does is string you on, tell you sweet stories about marriage and what not, all the while he has another girlfriend who he probably tells the same stories to. You got to wonder how many other girls he pulls this with, seeing as had he MEANT any of it he'd be with YOU, not this girl in North Carolina...
I say don't listen to his words. I also would warn you against a man who promises this and that, and builds up a whole fantasy land of how things will be in the future. It's castles in the sky. Look instead for a man who speaks less of fantasy, and acts in reality, a man who shows you he loves you through action and not only words, and a man who BUYS that promise ring instead of TALKING about how he will buy you one.
Believe in the promise ring when you see it, not while it is still in fantasy-land.
Another thing is that is is so easy for guys to string girls along with saying these things, talking about marriage, talking about how great things will be some day in the future when this or that happens... But look at the present, not at the future! And then, look at what YOU want. Do YOU want to marry this guy and have his promise ring, or do you just think it's nice to have someone to love you that much?
In this case you know how you feel about him, which is good, but without knowing how he feels about you, a promise ring will just be an empty ring. And at the moment, there isn't even a ring in the picture... There's just him, his words, and his girlfriend in North Carolina.
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reader, thomas1214  +, writes (28 March 2011):
awwwwwe isn't that cute..... he's sooooo sweet... not. OK so here is the deal. he says your his gf... did you say that or was he the one who said that and your just going with the flow? also isn't it obvious? seriously isn't it? OK so imagine this he "dumps" that one person who he is going out with to put on his facebook in a relation with (whatever your name may be) only to do the same thing with the chick he dumped. in other words he's going to play games with you so that he can get into your pants... end of story and plus 15??? you have many years ahead of you to act like a teenager before you become an adult..
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