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*archi
writes:i've known this guy for close to three years now, and he has been there all this while doing nothing but watching me. He is eight years older than me, and i just liked him, because he was one person who loved to put smiles on my face. We went along quite well, he just liked talkin to me. At the close of last year, he got a job, and bought a brand new car for himself. At the beginning of this year, one evenin when i was coming back from school, he asked me for my mobile number, and i gave it to him. To cut story short, he took me out n asked to b his date, he told me he wanted to settle down. We went out one day to his friend place (i havent accepted his proposal yet). He tried kissing me once we were alone in a room, but i didnt let him. He asked me why, and i told him i was still a virgin, n he became calm. He told me he didnt hav the mind to disvirgin a girl. We talked n i asked him why? he simply said that he was scared of the girl's reactions, her scream and the pains. I like this guy, n really want to go out with him, but im just scared because i think he's having an affair wit sumone and is not bein honest wit me . I cant bring myself to trust him and im confused about the not been able to disvirgin sumone n everything. I just need an advice, sumone should help me, should i go ahead and date him becos i think im fallin for him already or should i not? Thanks.
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reader, harchi +, writes (17 March 2013):
harchi is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for your answers, it did really encourage me, since i haven't accepted his proposal. I just think because he is rich, he just want to entice me with his money, and i think i'm going to turn down his proposal. One thing that hurts me so much is a fact that i dnt know what is going on in his mind. But i still think i like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2013): I believe that your first time should be a special time and man's fear of hurting you in the process with intercourse may or may not be founded.If you can't trust someone then that is going to be a problem and you may have to end it. Get some professional help for you and your boyfriend so he can be sensitive to your needs and making you feel great with minimal or no pain for you in any way. Good luck..
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reader, sherrig  +, writes (17 March 2013):
He is probably frieghtened because your a virgin, and he has never had one. I knew a guy like that, that married a virgin and was scared to death. I would not give that (virginity) to anyone but your husband. It is a gift for your husband only. If you went somewhere with this man and he didn't bother you, he might be ok, but if you felt scared when you was with him, you might want to think about only going to public places. God Bless and good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013): HI, Your title answers your question for you. If you feel doubtful, follow your women's intuition. Even if it turns out he's ok. It will not be that great of an experience with doubts. Plus, being eight years older, he probably does have someone else dear. Him telling you he wants to settle down doesn't mean anything. He needs a ring ,etc. All that romance will fly out the door when you have to TALK alot about bills and raising the kids, etc. and finding out after you sleep with him and having all your ideals shattered would not be fun for you. Beware.
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