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writes: Please!!! Someone to help me!!! Should I decide to have a baby or/and buy a house to revive ten years of unhappy marriage??? Thanks!!! Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, iamsoscrewedup333 +, writes (21 April 2006):
if you "have" to do one of these 2 things to try to "revive" your marriage, then buy the house. If things don't work out you can always sell the house but a child is forever! Also think about the child, why would you use a person to try to fix somthing that is wrong with you? Buy the house and if that helps and gets you back on track you can have a child for the right reasons, because you love each other and want to have a loving family, not to try to save yourselves.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (14 April 2006):
Hi
go with the house, and do anything you can to revive a marriage. Think how the child would feel to know that he/she was only there to make mummy and daddy happy but it didn't work? Or imagine when it's older and finds out it was only born to make you two happier, SERIOUS family row predicted! HOUSE HOUSE HOUSE HOUSE!
All The Best
Phoebe xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2006): if you really have to choose the baby or the house then i would choose the house. Think about how awful it would be for the child if your marriage wasnt revived. You would just be hurting another human being. Good Luckxx
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reader, willywombat +, writes (5 April 2006):
Go to relationship counselling. Don't put your marriage under further stressors until you ahve worked out your exsisting problems.....
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reader, Hunny Bunny +, writes (5 April 2006):
I would recomend none of these things.To bring up a baby you need to be in a loving an stable relationship. An if you were to a buy a house an then break up you wolud end up havig to sell an split the house, which woiuld be hard wrok. Instead sit down and talk about your problems together. Once there sorted go for which ever you want the most!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2006): I'm trying to figure out how 'buying a house' will revive an unhappy marriage, hun? The baby idea is a disaster waiting to happen. If you are having problems relating and there is just the TWO of you, bringing a child into the fray, will make it worse. Kids require much time, attention and love. Children need to come into a family where both parents are happy and can provide them with a intact, solid home. Don't have the kid. Don't buy the house either. If you both are miserable with each other, either seriously work on your marriage or get a divorce. Counselling may help you both. I highly recommend it.
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