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writes:there is this boy i like and we went out for a week and then he ignored me for a whole month, and then he came back and was like i'm sorry. he wants to get back together. I really like him ALOT. however, he's like you know what type of relationship i want. i really want to but i can't give him what he wants. i feel like if i say sure i will be leading him on to believing that we will have sexvin the near future. it really sucks because i don't want to lose him, but if he leaves then i guess he was never worth it. i hate having to choose between what i believe in and him. i think sex is for marriage. i know he is a guy and most guys want that. but really is that important??? plus its so early in the relationship. i mean i just had my first kiss, i'm not fast with these things, i take it seriously.anyways in the end he was all like let's just be friends with benefits. i don't want a committed relationship and i just want to have fun. I didn't want a friends with benefits relationship, so he said fine we'll just be friends.I was like that's fine. It was really hard accepting that he didn't want to be with me. He would sometimes contact me and talk to me and bring up our relationship again. i told him i needed time away from him and that we can be friends after my time away. so i was going to delete him off myspace and facebook. he was like that's so stupid. don't do that. so i didn't. he's like you know i want you. and you know if you want me then what you have to do. he's was all like a girls has to give me a reason to stay and when they do i'll be there. he's all like work with me first and then i'll work with you. i was like i just can't do that. i mean give him a reason to stay???..i mean if he doesn't have a reason yet then i don't think sex will get him to stay. he kept asking for blowjobs and i would be like no. it seems like you want the blowjob more than me.i was fine being friends until he got a new girlfriend. it really hurt. i didn't know he could replace me so quickly. he stilled talked to me for a while, but now a days he doesn't even talk to me. it kills me. I go on his facebook and see everything. He said he didn't want to be in a committed relationship. then why is he in one now? he's giving this girl everything i wish he could've done for me. i never asked much for him. just to talk to me and see me at school sometimes. i loved this boy. he was my first love and first kiss. i gave him my heart and soul. i put so much time in this relationship. i'm not over him and it hurts alot. i have hope that maybe he'll come back one day. i know i shouldn't expect anything. the higher your expectations, the greater the fall. I don't see him around anymore like i used to. Actually i haven't seen him in a month. i miss him. the other day i sent a message saying, "you don't even say hi now, anyways i just wanted to say happy new years(it's the new year in my country. He ignored it. he didn't write anything back on facebook. that really hurt, he responded to everything other people posted on his wall except mine.i can't do this anymore. i'm not over him, and he doesn't give a shit about me. how could he be so cruel. sometimes i just want to delete him off facebook and myspace. maybe if i didn't see everything then i would be able to let go. idk. facebook and myspace are the last connections i have with him. if i delete him then he will be out of my life forever. what if i need to contact him. he said he wanted to be friends. what if i hurt him by deleting him. i mean idk i feel bad deleting him. i love him. he was the first boy i kissed. he's special to me. i don't know what i should do. Do you keep your ex on facebook. i just can't keep seeing all his posts. he doesn't care about me anymore, and it kills me everytime he ignores me. i'm just slowly dying on the inside. what should i do? continue to be his friend? Delete him off facebook and myspace? or any other advice that will help me get over him, since he got over me so quickly?thank you :)
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 Yes' delete him, delete everything that reminds him to you.
If you really wanna move on, you have to take out all his shadow's in your site. Do it at least till the time that your emotion is already strong and not anymore affected to his presence. You can do it.. Just trust your self with it.. Good luck..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): Yes, delete him and move on. He was up front with you what he wanted, that's not what you want, so although there may be some elements of having a boyfriend that provide some attraction, his stated goal is not yours. Find someone with similar goals.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhy am i having such a hard time letting go of this jerk?:(. he's treated me badly. am i just really stupid or does everyone have a hard time letting go? what should i do to get over him..any tips?
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 Hi,
I'm sorry you fell hard for this jerk. Even you know that he doesn't want to be with you. He only wanted sex and when you refused he now wants nothing to do with you. Delete him and move on. You don't need someone like that in your life.
Good Luck!
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