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writes:My boyfriend is a photographer, and he wants to photograph me for part of his portfolio. I insists I should do it but I'm so worried. The other girls he photographs are skinny models. I'm a uk size 8-10. I know I'm not fat but I will just not look good in photos, especially with the other girls. I don't know how to get out of doing it without telling him, because I don't want him to think I think I'm fat or anything, because I don't. I just know I'm not model material. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2011): Aw! I think you should do it. If he photographs all these skinny models all the time, he obviously thinks you are just as qualified to be a model as they are! He obviously thinks very highly of you, and you should really be flattered. Go for it, and I'm sure he'll make sure your photos look beautiful and make you see what he sees when he looks at you every day :)
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 November 2011):
 I think you should do it :) I had an ex who was a model, and he asked a friend of his (photographer) to take some pictures of me ( none were nudes) - I didn't want to at first, but honestly, those are some of the best pictures of me I have ever seen. And I had so much fun.
I am not photogenic at all, but I swear that guy made me look like I was. But heck, he could make a pet rock look hot!
Go for it. HAVE fun with it. If you don't want to be undressed, do sexy shots then be up front. But seriously, try it and have fun with it.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (30 November 2011):
 My ex was a photographer and I HATE having my photo taken, unlike you I am not even close to being thin, I am a curvy 12-14 and do not look good in photos!
However my ex even managed to make me look good in pictures, so I can guarantee you being so thin will look amazing!
Basically the equipment he will be using (lighting, lenses, camera etc) will be so good it could make anyone look great. Professional cameras are incredibly different to your phone camera or a digital camera, they are so expensive because they take such great pictures. I know my ex had around £15k of kit, they cost so much!
If you really really dont want to do it then just tell him you are not comfortable. But I can promise you that you will look amazing, you are an 8-10 so you have a lovely slim figure, and with all his photography kit the pictures will come out great.
And just because you dont look like a supermodel doesnt mean the pictures wont be great - he wont want his portfolio to be full of women that look like models, it is good to have a more natural style to show variety in what he can do. If he had a portfolio full of pictures of girls who are models then he would be very limited to one style of photography, whereas if he pictures 'normal' people he will be open to many more avenues as a photographer.
Put your insecurities to one side and give it a try - you never know, you might be really surprised with the results!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Miamine +, writes (30 November 2011):
 Your in the UK, haven't you ever seen "Look good naked" on channel 4. Put on some makeup and some nice clothes (or few or none, depending on what type of shot you have agreed on) Then try to look sexy, confident, shy, sleep or whatever Mr Photographer asks of you.
It's not up to you to look beautiful, it's up to him and his bag of tricks, his camera, photoshop on the computer, to make the final pictures look wonderful.
I bet your the type of person who says "I don't believe everything I see or read", but you believe all them girls in photos are beautiful. Nope they is not, some of the have acne and spots, some of them have grey skins, some of the best models are very plain. It's the makeup, the computer, lighting and camera tricks that make them look great, none of it is real. Look in some of them women's magazines where they show the stars and models in the street, shopping and going about their business. The got lumps and bumps, bad hair days, they wear track suits and bad clothes just like us.
Don't fall for the lies in the media. Recent court case meant that they got to explain that they use the computer to make the stars look wonderful, and it's not the expensive face cream that does that. And the hair, extensions baby, wonderful eyes, contact lenses, long lashes, stick on's, like the nails. You can do it too if you got money and time.
Have fun and enjoy yourself, he thinks your good enough and he's good enough for you to compete with any of the rich and famous people.
(Size 8-10 is tiny, the average UK woman is 14-16 and that's not fat either, below 8 and you are talking either very short woman or skeleton)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011):
I am an artist. I wanted to sketch my girlfriend nude because I think she is beautiful. It was a hard sell, because like most women she is self-conscious. Trust me when I say not every photo/sketch will come out flattering, but we will show you those that do and destroy the rest. This is true of ANY model, by the way. Even gorgeous women can have terrible photos - eyes closed, bad angle, etc. He wants to do it because he thinks it will be fun and because he thinks you are lovely. You can do it or not. It is up to you. However, do it (or not) because of how you feel. He already thinks you are model material.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): He obviously thinks you're beautiful! Go for it girl, I bet you'll look stunning cause let me tell you he certainly thinks so! X
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (30 November 2011):
 You'll look smashing provided he isn't bad at what he does. If you have other concerns - with being in portfolio itself, for instance, that's different and you should then not do it if you aren't comfortable with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): A form of worship that will introduce fun. *sighs* I recently had my BF take photos of me and he was in heaven. He enjoyed how playful I was. He would tell me how to pose, where to look. He adores me and thinks I'm beautiful and you know what? I felt it that day he was taking photos and telling me his heart was stopping.Your BF knows how to work his magic and others in his profession would DIE To have him do so for them.Here he is, wanting to put you in Goddess mode and capture your beauty the way he sees you.To you, you are everything. Its not just anyone who says, please let me take your picture.He's an artist. He loves you. Trust in him. You will look FAB!BTW, he doesn't want skinny models, he WANTS you. Men in my province in Canada prefer the curves vs the skinny models. They want something to hold and love. To them, curves are sexier and mean a woman is secure with herself to be a woman and not some stick.Your BF is the same type of man. CELEBRATE!!
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reader, synchrohobbit +, writes (30 November 2011):
 Are you worried about what people will think when he sees you in his portfolio? It sounds like he doesn't care at all about these other models and would really like to photograph you because he loves your body. I think it would be a good exercise for you to practice being comfortable with your body, and it will add depth to his portfolio. I think if you are only concerned about how you look in comparison to the other girls you should have him take the pictures and then decide after whether or not he should use them. You might be surprised.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): He's the photographer, and he thinks your good enough, not only to be his model, but also his girlfriend!.... If course if you don't want to, you shouldn't force yourself, but you are good enough, he has actually asked you! I'm sure he didn't ask the other girls did he? More like they benefited from being in his portfolios
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): There is more to photo's than just bony women.Look, he is a professional photographer... he can make SuBo look presentable and she's a bit on the eyes normally.He is dating YOU, not those skeletors that are his bread and butter.I think it more likely he wants to share his passion with you, because this can be a very intimate experience for the both of you if you let it become so, far different from shooting some model he's only just met and who probably cares more about the lettuce leaf she ate for breakfast making her fat than actually being a good person.This is down to YOUR fears. And the thing about fear, especially of this kind, is it can only hold you back. Better to overcome it and just bite the bullet.Flynn 24
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