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writes:I dont know what to do with this situation? I have a gf that is funny, pretty, smart, but i am not attracted to her sexually. I have never felt a spark between us since weve been dating. My friends like her and find her attractive, my family likes her, and i really do care about her. The sex is good when it happens but i find myself attracted to other women when we are together, and she feels rejected because i am not affectionate with her. I dont want to continue hurting her feelings and dragging out a relationship where i dont feel a spark. On the other hand I also do not want to lose her as a friend, because i dont have much of a social life besides her. Very few of my friends are still around due to college, jobs, military etc. We are both in our early 20's and I feel that I keep things going with her i am ruining both of our chances at finding happiness with other people. What should I do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 April 2010):
You need to let her go. I think you're keeping her around as more of a comfort blanket because most of your friends are away and you'd feel worse and more lonely. But by stringing this along any more, neither of you will be able to move on properly. Let her go so she can find someone else, and then you need to become more pro-active and get back out there to meet new people. But don't stay in this relationship any longer, because you're doing harm to her and to you.
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reader, elite123 +, writes (25 April 2010):
You need to end the relationship. You need to be quick, short and honest. Do not give her false hope, do not say you need space or time. Simply explain that you do not see a future together and that you need to move on. Then you must not contact her or respond to her. This is important to not string out. It will hurt. But in the long run, the less time you use to string this out.. the less it will hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): Let her go. You're hurting her either way.
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