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writes:I have a tendency to go for the black guys. Okay so I'm only 16 and I've only dated one 16 year old guy and yes he was black. But I am a British born indian, and my friends always tell me that I find black guys attractive, there's nothing wrong with that but Indian guys just dont appeal to me. Im not attracted to them and I dont know why! I always look at the black guys, and only find them good-looking. Im a very strong believer in astrology and that sorta stuff. I recently got my reading done, and everything the woman said about me and my family members was correct, she said when I am older I will end up marrying someone that is not of the Indian race and it may cause problems with my family.I kinda have an idea that the race could be black. I'm not certain, but as long as I have remembered, not once have I been attracted to anyone unless they were black.Why do you think this is? and all the black guys out there.. would you mind going out with a british-indian?Replies will be much appreciated :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Simply Signman  +, writes (16 January 2012):
 I don't know where you have been, but I have always found Indian women attractive, white women I can take them or leave them. But an attractive person is an attractive person period. I am usually caught off guard when a woman tells me that I a attractive though. I'm no eye sore, but some people just seemed to hit the lottery on the gene pool though. Good luck in your dreams. It's a little late for me,as I am older now. Still I can be happy for someone else. Beside I truly believe if you act better you look better. You sound like a very nice person, just make sure the guy is deserving of you.
I'd date you in a minute, just don't bore me, is all I ever look for. You know . I like real down to earth with a brain. Good luck. There is someone right who is looking for you.
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reader, mrdesai +, writes (1 January 2010):
Astrology is a pseudo-science. In fact, to put it rather bluntly, its a fraud. Do not believe in it. Secondly, your attraction, more or less, is a fetish. Some incident occurred which positively reinforced your fetish, which now has convinced you (i.e. brainwashed) of your exclusive attraction---based solely on racial features.Liking someone due to ethnicity/race is as racist as disliking someone due to ethnicity/race. As an Indian, surely you get that.Well, you know the score--clearly you will be shunned by the desi community if you so choose to pursue your fetish. And remember--all fetishes change/end. What you like today, you may dislike tomorrow. You need to soul search, and discover which particular feature you like about Black men. Black men are extremely varied--I presume you do not mean the Indigenous in sub-saharan Africa? Or the migrants to the UK?Nigerians are very different from Kenyans, which are very different from Congoloese.They even look different. Soul search.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): I am a african american and I love women of color. Indian women are beautiful and I would love to date one. But there are alot of negative sterotypes about Indian girls dating outside of their race.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): Opposites attract... Maybe the black guys are tall and stronger than Asian men.. I know that's why a lot of black guys find Asian women attractive. Usually they have different body shapes and manners from women of black culture. You like them because they are tall, well built and often loud, and they like you because you are the opposite. Nothing wrong with that. Sometimes opposites attract. Your not strange, many Asian women feel the same way.
I like Asian guys, but they're usually too delicate for me with my body size, so we remain as freinds. There are things about Asian men that are so different from Black guys who I grew up with. No problem, just a case of different strokes for different folks. Don't worry about it, your friends and familly approve and support you with your romantic choices, that's all that matters at the end of the day. Your lucky, now go look for the right guy, black, white, pink or grey to fall in love with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your help.
My parents didnt even mind me going out with a ghanaian boy. My grandparents have always told me that beauty has no colour, you cant help who you fall in love with.
So im really not worried about that, I just keep wondering why I only go for black guys. I personally may think it's because my first boyfriend was black, but I was only ever attracted to black guys before I met him.
It's very weird, but I dont go for any other culture.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): PS: There are many Asian people who have been brought up in Caribbean countries, places like Trinidad have a lot of Muslims. They mix and marry with black people and there are no problems. So it dose happen often, many black people have Asian people in their family and nobody finds it strange.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): Relationships with Asian girls and people from other cultures has always been difficult in Britain. Many Black guys are very attracted to Indian girls but leave them alone because they are aware that the Indian family may not approve. Black families don't have this problem, they don't mind their sons dating Indian women, but differences in religion and childcare can sometimes be a sore point.
Make sure you go out with a nice black guy, who likes other things about you and not only your colour. Be careful there are black guys who find it challenging to date an Indian girl just because it is hard. Find a black guy who you like for his personality as well as his colour. Then your family will understand, especially if the guy is good and kind and is respectful to you and your traditions. Things are changing here in Britain, but it's still hard to date across races for many Asian people. Pick a kind, intelligent, guy with good manners, and then your parents will understand why you like him, and this just might make them step back. There are black guys in very traditional families in the UK, find one of these, and they will understand some of the family/cultural problems you might face by just being together and in love.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (24 December 2008):
 i'm white and happy to go out with anyone. thought i'm not a big fan of white women. its not the look its the attitude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): Maybe watched too much of Denzel Washington movies?His Smile....ooh.....
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (24 December 2008):
 that's interesting! were you close to any black guy or have any experiances in your childhood? that's the only thing i can think of...
and i don't see why a black guy would have a problem with going out with you.
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