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writes:Im 18 and have been going out with my boyfriend for two months. In the past few days I have suddenly felt that I don't like him as much anymore. The entire time we have gone out I have been smitten with him but now I just don't feel the same. Do you think my original feelings will return/is there a way I can get them back? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (6 April 2007):
 The beginning of love can be an extreme rush, all the heady sensations, the heart racing and the anxious anticipation. If that is the feeling that you are missing, well, that it only the beginning of love. People who get hooked on the very first stages of love can lose sight of it's purpose, the urge to couple, get together and become intimate, become partners and then raise children - that's the drive behind it all. When people believe that only that "initial" stage is "true love", they run around chasing it forever, because it is ethereal and only there in the beginning. The next stages of love are calmer and deeper. I don't know if this is any help to you. There is also a possibility that you are not "loving" him quite so much now because you know him better and are not "liking" him as much any more. People are flawed individuals, eventually we find one that has the flaws that we don't mind so much, they don't mind ours, so we marry them! But you are a young girl - it's all right to have a Big Love for someone, get to know them better, and then reflect on it and decide that they weren't the person we thought we wanted. It's disappointing when it happens, but you are not married or engaged, you have not committed yourself. Sometimes "love" might have been "attraction/lust" and the deeper part just might not be possible because you have found out more about him and don't really like his character. Unfortunately, this can happen too. It's only my opinion based from my experience, but I hope it helped in some way.
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