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writes:Basically, I have four friends and we call ourselves 'sisters'. However I feel I don't fit in. They are popular, etc etc. And more or less I admit I made friends with them for status purpose. But you need that popularity in my school to sorta survive.Now there's this girl in one of us five who gets irritated with me. She says i'm irritating and nonsensical. She posted in on her blog even. And i was really hurt, for she called me, stupid (my name) and said she didn't know how she managed to put up with my nonsense. I really don't know in what way am i irritating. Yes, others have told me before and i've driven away mates like this. But i have my limit in disturbing people and i didn't know they get so pissed easily! Now, i want to disappear. From school, church, the outside world. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): I have gone through life feeling like that, so dont let it get you down. If there were a group of girls at school i always got on with all of them but never quite felt part of the group. Yes i do know what you mean, but as you get older you get to be comfortable with yourself and your own space. And it isnt always everything to be part of a group, and besides those that you think look comfortable might not feel that way. Things are not always what they seem. Just enjoy being you, i did, i love myself now.
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reader, Deema  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 If its any consolation, most people have the feeling they don't fit in, even when it looks to the outside world like they are the popular ones, they still are putting on a front because underneath all the outside facade, we all feel the same. So you're not so different from them. In fact I would say the girl that is getting 'irritated' with you is probably jealous cus thats what jealous people do. They see someone as a threat and try to make them look small so they feel big - but really the only one they are hurting is themselves, cus they have to live with that. So I know this is a difficult time when you're at school, you want to be accepted and liked. Its tough. Try being the bigger person and seeing this girl for what she is - insecure - if that doesn't work you may want to try finding some different friends who won't give you such a hard time. Lots of luck.
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reader, Deema +, writes (16 May 2008):
If its any consolation, most people have the feeling they don't fit in, even when it looks to the outside world like they are the popular ones, they still are putting on a front because underneath all the outside facade, we all feel the same. So you're not so different from them. In fact I would say the girl that is getting 'irritated' with you is probably jealous cus thats what jealous people do. They see someone as a threat and try to make them look small so they feel big - but really the only one they are hurting is themselves, cus they have to live with that. So I know this is a difficult time when you're at school, you want to be accepted and liked. Its tough. Try being the bigger person and seeing this girl for what she is - insecure - if that doesn't work you may want to try finding some different friends who won't give you such a hard time. Lots of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): You got four friends who like you enough to be with you, and these friends are some of the most popular people in the school.
One girl dosen't like you and because of that your going to run and hide away. Your age has come up as 22-25, are you for real. I think you need to grow up a little, find some backbone and stop caring what other people think.
If you don't know why your irritating then you can't be expected to correct it. Maybe it's just the people your arround. Find friends that you value for more than their status and you may find that your irritating ways are just what they like in a friend.
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