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writes:hey ppl... My problem's strange.I'm a 16 year old girl, and when I was younger I had loads of girl mates but now I have none. Girls just seem to hate me and I cannot figure out what I have done to deserve the title 'stuck up cow'. I mean I'm nice to everyone, and I never bitch about people. I have respect for people and their opinions, but whatever I do, girls will start bitching about me when I walk past.In general I have only got guy mates, which I do appreciate, and I'm starting to lose interest in being friends with girls cos they're so mean. But I was just wondering if anyone could answer this bizarre question....cheers xx Reply to this Question
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reader, charliesgirl +, writes (12 August 2005):
Teenage girls do tend to go through a stage of being bitchy. It isn't out of malice or intentionally hurting you, it's simply the adolescent process of maturing into an adult. It sounds as though these girls don't seem to have the maturity that you obviously have. It may also be that they're jealous of the fact that you obviously get on so well with the opposite sex!
When these girls start making comments, as hard as it may be, completely ignore them and join your male friends. They're looking to provoke you and get a reaction to their childish behaviour. If you don't give them the satisfaction then they will be the ones who end up looking foolish.
The good news is, from my own experience girls begin to mature from 17 - 18 onwards. When I was a teenager I a had a huge argument with a couple of my friends which took about 6 months for us to recover from. Now ten years on we are all still great friends and support each other and haven't let a slight blip when we were younger spoil our friendship. SO bear this in mind if you do have a close friendship with any of these girls. Otherwise, enjoy the friendships that you have with these guys and if possible widen your social circle so that you're not always coming into contact with immature girls. And just because they're being bitchy doesn't mean that you should be. A good natured attitude will attract the nicer people.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2005): let me put it this way for you. all girls are bitches every now and again. you say you never bitch about people but surely if a girl has done something to make you feel angry or upset you have said "oh my god i cant believe her!" or "she just ruins everything for me!" that is bitching. you say you have mostly guy mates. thats fine. girls dont always have to hang out with girls and the same with boys. you hang out with who you want to hang out with never mind anyone else.
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