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writes:I've been talking to this guy online for a couple of days and we text and stuff and we've seen each others pictures and I've seen him on webcam and I like him and he says he likes me and wants to meet up but Im kind of nervous about meeting up with him because I've never met anyone i met online in real life. should someone go with me? and I'm afraid he wont like the way I look even though he's seen my pictures. Should I meet up with him or hold off?
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reader, doom  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 I'll tell you a short story, i met my GF on facebook, and we leave same city, and talked 3 weeks each day on camera.She and i were so nervous first day,and now we love each other and we are together 3 years.You say you talked a couple of days.I think it's a bit short, try 1-2 week,may be more.Don't rush,try knowing him a bit better. But don't worry if you like him go for it(i mean when you feel ready).You have nothing to loose.And don't go with a friend it will block him.Go alone!!
Good luck!!
P.S.-yes better to go at a public place,buy some ice creem,etc..."there are weirdos on itnernet"
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): The fact that you are feeling so nervous suggests to me that you are not ready to meet him. You have been talking to him for a couple of days, which isn't really enough time to get to know someone well. I think that may be why you feel apprehensive about meeting him. Because you don't know him well enough yet.
Just because he would like to meet you, you don't have to meet him if it isn't what you want right now. Don't feel pressured into it. I think you are being sensible in thinking twice about this. Maybe you could tell him that you would like to just get to know each other more first. If he is genuine and worth the effort, he will be okay with that.
However, if you do decide to meet him anyway, taking a friend along is a good idea. But even so, make sure you meet in a public place, and tell people where you are going and when you should be back. If possible, ask if someone, like a friend, could phone you at an agreed time, to check if you are alright. But trust your feelings on this, and don't do anything you feel uneasy about. x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 December 2009):
You've only been speaking to him for a couple of days and you're planning a meet? I would say leave it longer and get to know him more. And if you do meet him, keep it very public.
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reader, Blod +, writes (28 December 2009):
 It's up to you what you do.
Meeting up with people you've met online is always risky. It can be dodgy and you have to be careful. It can go wrong. Having said that, one of my best friends is in a relationship with someone she met online. They first met aged 17 and they're still going strong a year or two later. She'd been talking to him on msn, on the phone, she'd seen him on webcam and all that. She was confident about meeting him, unlike you. She still took four of her friends with her, and of experience I strongly suggest you take at least one person with you, for moral support as well as back up. Don't go alone.
If you have any doubts, then you don't have to go. It's totally up to you. You don't have to meet up with him if you don't want to. I think you should be much more confident about meeting him before you do so.
Good Luck. X
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (28 December 2009):
how old is he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): 'a couple of days'??? No - you should not meet up with him yet - this is no time at all to get to know someone. Give it longer, a few weeks at least - and when you do meet up with him make sure you do so in a public place with lots of people around. Believe me, even though this guy might not be one of them, there are some real weirdos on the internet.
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