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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i am a muslim and my girlfriend is a buddhist. we love each other truly. but her parents are not accepting our relationship and does not want it to continue. what should i do?
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reader, xbubblesx  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Hi i am a muslim and come from bangladesh to, i think you should stick to your religon and your parents are only doing it so you can have a better life
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (24 July 2007):
There are lots of stereotypical views people have of muslim men when they marry a non muslim woman.
Here are a few.
The women have to change their religion.
The children are brought up in Islam.
The woman becomes slave and servant to her husbands every whim.
No parent of any non muslim daughter would want this for her no matter what religion or what cuture they are from.
I no doubt they are possibly terrified. Now I am not saying that you are like this but it might somewhat describe fears that they have and objections they may have.
Ex-communicating yourself from your religion and becomming a buddhist or agnostic or athiest would possibly calm your girlfriends parents worries but it depends how willing you would be to do this. I also wonder what re-percussions your parents would have with this.
At the end of the day you have to decide what is more important and she has to decide this too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): Maybe you could consider not having her convert to Islam? I'm sure that is the girl's parents main problem about your relationship. Then again, I'm sure your parents wouldn't be happy if you rejected your own religion.
This the problem when people choose to believe in different religions and different gods, you all are told to live your life in different ways.
It sounds like you have a tough time ahead of you, maybe it might be better to go your seperate ways?
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 I do apologies I read wrong. But the point is still the same. Continue with the relationship and let her tell her parents were she stands with you. They should get to know you and see how happy you can make her.
As before eventually with time they will hopefully get over the issue of your beliefs
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reader, HonningKanin +, writes (24 July 2007):
This is excatly why I dont believe in Religion and why it causes more harm than good in todays world.
I would say you are old enough to know what you want and you obviously do not mind that her beliefs differ from your own. I would say continue with this relationship because it is your life you will lead. It does not belong to your parents. If your parents continue to be on your back about the relationship tell them how happy she makes you and that you care for her and that is that. If they continue after that I would suggest letting it go to the wind.
If she makes you happy and if she loves you for who you are then what she believes should be irrelevant and hopefully your parents will see that and eventually accept her.
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