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writes:I've been chatting to this guy for a couple of months, and found out that he fancied me a while back. I told him in the beginning that I wasn't interested in a relationship with him, but wanted to be friends with him.However, recently I've found that he doesn't fancy me anymore.I'm pleased for him that he's moved on, but as an insecure person, the feeling of being liked for who you are was lovely. I'm missing him fancying me. Is this totally selfish and stupid?Please help, I can't decide whether I maybe have feelings for him .
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reader, Jonathan123 +, writes (30 April 2007):
Have you only known this person for a couple of months or have you just been talking to him for a couple of months on that sort of level. In any case I think these guys are right, I think its the attention that you miss not so much the person. Which is fine!
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reader, candyk +, writes (26 April 2007):
It doesnt sound like you have feelings for him. Its perfectly normal to enjoy the compliments and being fancied by someone else and when it stops you will miss the flattering feeling. Try looking at why you feel insecure and work on that and also realise you dont need male attention to feel secure about yourself.
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (26 April 2007):
I don't think that you have feelings for him, but more likely a longing to be loved, and that is not a solid foundation for a relationship. As you have said, you feel that you are quite insecure, first you need to tackle why you feel that this is the case. Its not so much that you are being selfish or stupid, it is a nice feeling to have someone fancying you but it becomes unfair if you expect him to long for something thats not going to happen
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