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writes: Hello. I have been married to my husband almost four years now and we have a two year old daughter and another baby is on the way. I thought I was happily married, but I often find myself thinking of this man who is the manager at the restaurant we always go to. He knows me as a customer, but that is it and he is married! It seems like I'm in love with this man and I can't stop thinking about him. At home, I'm very happy with my daughter, but I'm often feel lonely and want to have more intimate relationship with my husband. He watches TV all night and doesn't pay too much attention to me. He always tells me that he loves me, but I feel that he loves his television shows more than me!!! I'm very outgoing and he used to be the same when we first met, but I realized that he's no longer into the social life, going out and having good time with friends. There is nothing I can do about the guy at the restaurant, but I can't stop dreaming about being with him.. Am I wrong of even thinking about this guy or wanting more from him??? Please help me!
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (27 January 2006):
 During pregnancy, our libidos increase greatly because of increased bloodflow to our pelvic region which could be to blame for your attraction to the restaurant manager. I know when my hubby and I were expecting our second child this was very true. I had the wildest sexual fantasys I never knew were in me. The hubby & I used it to our advantage and we got closer than ever.
You mentioned that your hubby doesn't pay any attention to you. Talk to him, let him know you're horny as hell. When he understands this insationable hunger for intimacy, you won't be able to hold him off. When you grow closer during these intimate times, let him know you've been feeling lonely and want to spend more meaningful time together like ya'll used to. In time, you'll forget about that married restaurant guy and laugh that you were attracted to him. Take care!
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reader, LaraJ +, writes (4 January 2006):
It's only natural and human to be attracted to other people. I'm proof of that. Someone that you see often, or on a regular basis can grow on you and make you feel comfortable. I have grown fond of someone (my friend's husband to be exact) lately myself and I'm married and feeling a little guilty about it. Your husband should be compassionate and loving to you. You deserve that, you're bearing children for him! He should be more intimate and understanding with you. Don't feel like your're the only one. I just posted my own dilema as well. I have a 5 year old daughter, children are a blessing.. You deserve the best! Remember you're only human, and you have to let yourself fantasize somtimes! Good Luck & Best wishes.
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reader, LaraJ +, writes (4 January 2006):
It's only natural and human to be attracted to other people. I'm proof of that. Someone that you see often, or on a regular basis can grow on you and make you feel comfortable. I have grown fond of someone (my friend's husband to be exact) lately myself and I'm married and feeling a little guilty about it. Your husband should be compassionate and loving to you. You deserve that, you're bearing children for him! He should be more intimate and understanding with you. Don't feel like your're the only one. I just posted my own dilema as well. I have a 5 year old daughter, children are a blessing.. You deserve the best! Remember you're only human, and you have to let yourself fantasize somtimes! Good Luck & Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2006): i would tell your husband you need more from him .... he might just give u what your looking for and it is cool that your thinking of other men its only human so relax the acting on it is the thing you cant take back so think long and hard before you do. Maybe your not giing your husband what he needs i know when my fiance was prego it was very or she was very hard to deal with.....
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