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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay everyone I am so very beyond confused! So I broke up with my ex last Monday. I didn't miss him wanna talk to him or anything. Then he texted me on Thursday telling me that he misses me and stuff that he would usually never say. He was saying things like I don't want us to be over and stuff like that. Then on Friday he texted me again we texted through out the day and he was telling me that he wanted to come see my daughter and i and take us out to eat on saturday. Then later that night he told me he wanted to come stay with me. Well he stayed with me Friday and Saturday he told me on Monday he needed to stay with me for the rest of the week because he was running low on money because he bought me a phone and needed to save gas for work he lives 45 minutes away from his job. Any way things have been great. But were not dating but he still wants to cuddle with me and kiss me and it feels like were dating. We cuddled and watched movies all day we went out to eat and went on a walk. I brought up what we was going to do about us. He said that he wasn't for sure because I told him that I didn't know if I wanted to be with him and that maybe we should wait like 3 or 4 months before we date again. Now he's saying that he doesn't wanna rush into anything. And that he likes the way things are going now because were not worried about a relationship were just having fun and spending time with each other. What do I do? Is he playing with my feelings or what? I told him that I was worried that I would get close to him again and he decide he wants to move on and he told me that if he wanted to move on he wouldn't be with me now. We both agreed that we didn't wanna move on. Its just were both afraid that one of us will move on... any advice?
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (22 August 2013):
 Sweetie, please reread your letter as if someone else had written it.
He is using you. No commitment, but a roof over his head, meals provided, a warm bed and kisses and cuddles whilst he saves money for gas! How could a girl say no?
As soon as there's a better offer he'll be off and that's horrible for you and very unfair on your little girl.
Kick this waster to the kerb and focus on raising your daughter. A decent guy will turn up one day but this one isn't it x
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 August 2013):
 Think of what you described; a "relationship" which is fragile, at best.... and which is sustained by neither of you wanting to take the initiative to move on to some OTHER relationship, which (relationship) ISN'T based upon "...were both afraid that one of us will move on... "
I suggest that you both move on and become adults... THEN consider having "relationship(s)"...
good luck...
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