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*atine1899
writes:Lately at school I have sometimes been feeling isolated by my friends. It's not all the time, but some days I feel like they don't want to be around me or just find everything I do annoying or stupid, even if they do similar things. They might give me funny looks or give me one word answers to things and then just turn away. Also even though I don't know what they're talking about, whenever I sometimes hear them whispering, I hear things that could be associated with me and I have a feeling that they are talking about me. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Even if they are not talking about me, I assume it, does that say anything about our friendship? It really brings me down and I don't think they even notice if i'm feeling sad, and I don't exactly hide it either. I feel like I'm just there in the background and they just use me whenever they feel like it.Also my birthday is coming up in afew days and one of them can't come and 2 others are coming really late because of another party, and although they agreed to leave abit earlier, the way they said it just made me feel bad, I don't know why.Also I want to find some more friends out of school, so I can find people with interests like mine. I know people always say to join a club, but i don't know how to find out about them in my area, as I have looked on websites and searched on the internet, but can't really find anything. Any tips for that? or just ways of finding friends outside school
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reader, GabiLC  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 Have you tried asking them what their problem is?
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reader, Satine1899 +, writes (17 June 2009):
Satine1899 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks GabiLC, but no, i wasn't someone who wanted to hang around them all the time, I've probably spent less time with them than some of them have with each other.
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reader, GabiLC +, writes (17 June 2009):
Are you the type of person who wants, or who has in the past wanted, to hang out with these friends all of the time (24/7)? If you are, this could be your problem. Some people get tired of having to hang around the same people all day, everyday. Maybe you should try giving them some time away from you and instead, occupy yourself with others or a hobby. Do not feel bad because a few people in your life do not want to be bothered with you or are not bold and considerate enough to tell you how they feel about your presence to your face. Also, does your school have a website? If so, this may be a place to learn about clubs and organizations at your school. You may want to try other media sources, such as newspapers, television, and the radio for local entertainment to meet new people. I hope this helps.
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